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This or That: Kink Edition

Butterfly

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Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?

Lovely choices you made here :)
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk
or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay
or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie
or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved
or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?

Most of these I would probably say both though, tbh
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? I love bondage and prefer to see everything
Dominating or Submitting? Its what I naturally do best, although I do have some dom in me
Biting or Spanking? definitely spanking. The feel of it is more fun
Rope play or Leather cuffs? I choose role play now because I have never really done that yet
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? The dirtier and more degrading the better!
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? Depends on the activity. But if I must choose, slow
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? I want to feel and see! Even if its too much!
Watching or Being watched? Honestly hard choice as I love both
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Meh, both don't really sounds appealing to me
Roleplay or Dress-up? Very occaissionally its fun to dress-up as a girl. I've done it once, using a french maid costume (which tore)
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Being tied up, but both are a lot of fun
Orgasm control or Edging? I HATE edging
Public teasing or Private seduction? Really depends on the exact setting and context
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Breath play is too edge for me
Praise kink or Degradation kink? Definitely degradation. I love degradation!
Soft dom or Hard dom? Really depends on the context and when/how often. I think both sides are important
Lingerie or Naked immediately? While I love sexy lingerie, especially garterbelt, fishnets, corset and g-string, naked rules!
Morning play or Late-night play? I'm not a night owl at all and early mornings are generally my horniest times
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Can't choose. It really depends
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? Longer sex is better than shorter sex and for me orgasm at the end is not important. There's lots of ways to have fun so it can take longer. When it does come to actually fucking I think fast and rough is hotter!
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating
or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play
or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing
or Fast, rough action? 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up? 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control
or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction? 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom? 🤷‍♂️🤷‍♂️
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved
or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Hand cuffs
Dominating or Submitting?
Submitting
Biting or Spanking?
Buting
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Rope
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Silent
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Fast
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Overstimulation
Watching or Being watched?
Being watched
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Neck grabbing
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Dress up
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Being tied
Orgasm control or Edging?
Orgasm control
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Public
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Tenpature play
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Umm praise
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Hard
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Lingerie
Morning play or Late-night play?
Late night
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Toys
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
Slow and extended
 
I am so going to turn this into an interactive thing once I get to it. This will change for me on a daily basis but here it is for now:

Blindfolds!
Submitting!
Biting!
Rope play!
Silent teasing!
Slow teasing!
Overstimulation!
Being watched!
Neck grabbing!
Dress-up!
Being tied up!
Edging!
Public teasing!
Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)!
Praise kink!
Soft dom!
Lingerie!
Late-night play!
Toys involved!
Slow, extended foreplay marathon!
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?

-Blindfold

Dominating or Submitting?

-Submitting

Biting or Spanking?

-Spanking

Rope play or Leather cuffs?

-Rope play

Dirty talk or Silent teasing?

-Silent teasing

Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?

-I could go either way, both are good

Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?

-Overstimulation

Watching or Being watched?

-Being watched

Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?

-Neck grabbing

Roleplay or Dress-up?

-Dress-up

Being tied up or Doing the tying?

-Being tied up

Orgasm control or Edging?

-Edging

Public teasing or Private seduction?

-Public teasing

Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?

-Temperature play

Praise kink or Degradation kink?

-Praise kink

Soft dom or Hard dom?

-Soft dom

Lingerie or Naked immediately?

-Naked

Morning play or Late-night play?

-Night play

Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?

-Toys involved

Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?

-Tough choice, rough session, and slow extended are both good
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking? - difficult one though!
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? - another tricky choice
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging? - both are fun together
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
Some of these were very hard to choose between and I’d like a ‘why not both’ option 🤭
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? Both? Though if I have to choose, Blindfold, would rather another bondage option than handcuffs
Dominating or Submitting? Both again. Once I would have said submitting and I still do enjoy that. But air towards dominating more lately.
Biting or Spanking? Both. But spanking as the main choice ;)
Rope play or Leather cuffs? Oehhh really hard one... rope gets the lead but not by much
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? Both are fun, but silent teasing mostly.
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? Oeh slow for sure... I love to enjoy every moment
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Oeehhh another difficault one, this time because both sound bad.... Sensory dep maybe... depends how long... though also true for overstimulation... ughhh I dont know....
Watching or Being watched? Both again sound so fun, but watching more now
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Hair pulling, on s and d side... go figgure lol
Roleplay or Dress-up? Role play mostly
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Both... though tieing is more apealing of late (switchy issues lol)
Orgasm control or Edging? But both go together so so well... why is it either or... :o
Public teasing or Private seduction? Both can be enjoyable, those most times privet is more comfortable, can fully switch off and enjoy the feelings, not think about the audiance
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Temprature... most definatly
Praise kink or Degradation kink? Both, but for different reasons, on my S/ side degradation all the way, on the D/ side I enjoy giving praise, but also degradation airing more on the praise side
Soft dom or Hard dom? Both? and on both sides... my D/ side tends to be a bit pounce on the moment most times and soft the rest so can be both, same is true for my S/ side... I like a softer air most of the time but the occasional strict pounce is fun.
Lingerie or Naked immediately? Naked... maybe... depends on the moment
Morning play or Late-night play? Late night, not against play other times, but prefer main to be late night/evening
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?  Toys
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? Slow marathon... love the experiance, every secound of it.
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? i love to be restrained
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking? biting is fine too
Rope play or Leather cuffs? can do so much more with that
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Over stimulation?
Watching or Being watched? getting a bit into cuckolding :P
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? love it when im getting fucked and then they pull my hair
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? Handcuffs!
Dominating or Submitting? Submitting
Biting or Spanking? Spanking! But I would choose both if possible
Rope play or Leather cuffs? Rope :)
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? Dirty talk
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? Slow teasing
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Sensory deprivation all the way
Watching or Being watched? Watching
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Not sure if grabbing means breath play or not? So I’ll say hair pulling
Roleplay or Dress-up? Dress up
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Being tied up
Orgasm control or Edging? Edging 🥵🥵
Public teasing or Private seduction? Public teasing
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Breath play 🤤
Praise kink or Degradation kink? degradation
Soft dom or Hard dom? Hard all the way!
Lingerie or Naked immediately? Lingerie
Morning play or Late-night play? Late night
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Toys depending on what
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? Slow and extended!
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? Both at the same time!!!--not that i have done so.
Dominating or Submitting? Submitting
Biting or Spanking? Spanking
Rope play or Leather cuffs?... I am not sure really...not sure about the feel of either.
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? Dirty talk
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? Fast, rough action
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Overstimulation
Watching or Being watched? Being watched
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Neck grabbing
Roleplay or Dress-up? Dress-up
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Being tied up
Orgasm control or Edging? Orgasm control
Public teasing or Private seduction? Private seduction
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Temperature
Praise kink or Degradation kink? Degradation kink
Soft dom or Hard dom? Hard dom
Lingerie or Naked immediately? Naked immediately
Morning play or Late-night play? some where in the middle.
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Just hands/mouth
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? Quick, rough session
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? Blindfolds. Being cuffed seems unsafe and scary - being blindfolded is about being subjected, humiliated... sexxxily?
Dominating or Submitting? Submitting! Although I can also imagine situations where I am the dominant one.
Biting or Spanking? Yoiks. I don't do pain. Light nibbles? No, maybe some happy bum slapping?
Rope play or Leather cuffs? Rope burns are a thing. Leather is natural.
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? Oh that's a good question! I'm a word worker (well, I was), so I know what you can do with words! But dirty talk is almost always play-acting, and I just can't stand people play-acting, pretending, role playing. I'm horribly sensitive to theatricality, sloppy acting... yeah, as a former DM (about 30 years of experience in various game systems) I shouldn't continue this. So silent teasing is the safer alternative.
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? If it is really good, you want it to last forever! - but sometimes you just want to burn down the forest and scream like an eagle! But maybe the long, slow burn is best?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Overstimulation is not nice at all!
Watching or Being watched? Ooh! I have to admit (although I wouldn't always have liked to do so) that I'm a bit of a wanna-be exhibitionist - or even worse...
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Violence? Uh, whatever hurts the least, and makes the least damage...
Roleplay or Dress-up? I don't do role-playing. It's cringe. In a bad sense. But I would very much like to try some proper cross-dressing!
Being tied up or Doing the tying? It's a toss-up! (in the best possible sense.) I suppose I would be willing to try either if someone I would be very fond of would ask me, but otherwise... nope. If I have to choose (and that is of course the name of the game) I'd have to say I'd prefer to be the one doing the tying up.
Orgasm control or Edging? Aren't they actually the same thing? Unless you're suggesting that one of them doesn't end in climax, while the other one does. But which? No, this was a trick question! Hah! I found it! Do I get an extra point?
Public teasing or Private seduction? Another hard one! They each bite a different ear, as it were. A private seduction can go so deep! But a public teasing can be so tremblingly exciting! A private seduction would probably end with sex, so I think I'd go for that.
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? No. Just no. But because I have to, I'd go with the safer temperature play. But no. Don't like it.
Praise kink or Degradation kink? Blush. Degradation, please, ma'am.
Soft dom or Hard dom? I'm timid. Soft would do me nicely, thank you.
Lingerie or Naked immediately? I've actually never been very excited by lingerie. It might be different if I were the one to wear it! But at this time my reply is "naked"!
Morning play or Late-night play? For a practical reason, but only for this one practical reason, I select late-night play. The reason: when I wake up in the morning I'm always dying for a pee!
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Another good one! They're different! Toys are fun when you're having fun. If it is about lurve and other such emotions you shouldn't really even remember the rack at the back of your room.
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? How is this different from the earlier question about slow teasing or fast action? So: "Same procedure as last year, Miss Sophie." (A little bit of northern humour for you strict and scarily intimidating fluttering thing, you.)

This was a fun one!
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
both
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
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