Who do you play with?

[Bloxo]

One thing that is great about this site and the scene in general is how inclusive it is, it doesn't matter your gender or your sexual orientation you are welcome here and I think few online groups can say they have this much tolerance for diversity of thought and preference, but it makes me think...we all have our preferences and we are all open in different ways, so who do you play with?

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?
2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?
3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?
4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

 

[MessyAshy]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

Not really... I prefer girls, because i find them pretty, so if they send me pictures they are hot, I just don't feel the same about men. That being said, I do value stuff beyond looks that men can also deliver. Especially online I don't even have to look at the person domming me if I don't want to, so as long as i can respect them it's all the same to me.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

Creativity, care, attentiveness, consistency, a little bit of a devilish streak.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

Selfish, egocentric, close-minded, hateful, dishonest.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

I check out whatever I can find on them. Their profile, past posts, previous play partners... and if the initial checks raise no red flags I'll start a conversation with them, see if our desires align a bit. If there are red flags I'll inform them of the reason I decline. Because if no one ever tells them, they'll never learn. And maybe they don't want to learn, maybe my turn off is something they just like about themselves, and that's fine too. But at least they'll know.

 

[Butterfly]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

I have been pondering the idea that I might identify as pansexual rather than straight (or bi curious as I usually refer to myself). I really don't think it has to do with any specific body part and more to do with a person's whole being. Not to say I don't have my physical preferences

I will say that as a Domme, I will play with all genders. However I am very picky with male subs.

As a sub it is almost opposite. For me, there has only ever been one woman who was able to make me feel subby. Otherwise it is usually masculine energy that has done it. Though I'm not opposed, it would take a special fem presenting person to Dom me.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

This is different for me based on their role. But in either role I need somebody who is going to communicate well and consistently. I want somebody who is responsible and has their life together. I tend to look for long term arrangements even if they are casual but long term. I want somebody easy to talk to, funny, playful, well spoken, drama free.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

I do not want to play with anybody who is entitled, whiney, rude, disrespectful or those seeking a quick wank and run.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

If it is a sub, then I usually let them know that I am pretty picky with who I play with. A lot of the time I just let them know that I am not looking for any sub partners at the moment. If I'm intrigued then we have an open conversation.

As for Dom's, I usually research them ahead of responding. If there are no red flags, then I let them know that I don't jump into anything. I usually give them materials or mine to read and ask them to read about me and see if they still think we are a good fit.

 

[Bloxo]

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[baloo]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

No preferences whatsoever. This is not a gender thing, but some partners liked to slip into particular gender stereotype rules so that limits the type of play.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

I look fore the bare necessities! Fairly standard vetting - trustworthiness, awareness, communication, open-mindedness. In addition to that, I look for humor and any sign they are aware of their inner spark.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

Uptight, arrogant people, and any who cannot laugh about themselves. I am also incompatible with certain religious and political views. There is also a bunch of rather nondescript patterns that I refuse to work with.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

I engage in conversation. Start out with a bunch of weird questions, then start a quick vetting questionnaire to see if they are fundamentally compatible. From there it depends a lot on what they are looking for, how they behave and what their reaction to my weird questions are. If I am being contacted online I also see if they fall into one of the traps I laid out.

 

[Guv'nor]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?
I am open to any gender for the purpose of a kink scene

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?
Similar kinks and ideas, honestly and openness

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?
Liars, manipulators, untrustworthy people and people with poor hygiene

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?
I talk to them to see what they want, and what they expect I can do for them. Then I set out my position, and either agree a plan or decide that this isnt the right scene for me

 

[snoek]

One thing that is great about this site and the scene in general is how inclusive it is, it doesn't matter your gender or your sexual orientation you are welcome here and I think few online groups can say they have this much tolerance for diversity of thought and preference, but it makes me think...we all have our preferences and we are all open in different ways, so who do you play with?

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

I'm open to any and all genders.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

Someone who is honest, and can communicate clearly and openly. Is the most important.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

People who are not honest or have little to no information on their profile.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

That completely depends on the situation. I am fine with it if I know the person and have had multiple interactions with them. If someone sends a request out of nowhere with no information in the message and shows no effort from their side I probably won't wanna continue with it.

 

[Jolly*FtM]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?
I only play with men. I am gay and absolutely not attracted to women at all. But I wish.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

hmm he must be dominant, what I really don't like is, when he asks me how I like it and what I want. So demanding and dominant but also creative.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

Women, boys (under 25), switcher, crossdresser, sissys

I am really not into anything women like, so crossdresser and sissys aren't my cup of tea, I prefer a real man.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

It really depends on how they approach me, when it fits it fits.

If they start with hello and then it takes ages till they state what they want, it usually ends not in a play, depending on my mood.