Who do you play with?

[Bloxo]

One thing that is great about this site and the scene in general is how inclusive it is, it doesn't matter your gender or your sexual orientation you are welcome here and I think few online groups can say they have this much tolerance for diversity of thought and preference, but it makes me think...we all have our preferences and we are all open in different ways, so who do you play with?

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?
2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?
3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?
4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

 

[MessyAshy]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

Not really... I prefer girls, because i find them pretty, so if they send me pictures they are hot, I just don't feel the same about men. That being said, I do value stuff beyond looks that men can also deliver. Especially online I don't even have to look at the person domming me if I don't want to, so as long as i can respect them it's all the same to me.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

Creativity, care, attentiveness, consistency, a little bit of a devilish streak.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

Selfish, egocentric, close-minded, hateful, dishonest.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

I check out whatever I can find on them. Their profile, past posts, previous play partners... and if the initial checks raise no red flags I'll start a conversation with them, see if our desires align a bit. If there are red flags I'll inform them of the reason I decline. Because if no one ever tells them, they'll never learn. And maybe they don't want to learn, maybe my turn off is something they just like about themselves, and that's fine too. But at least they'll know.

 

[Butterfly]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

I have been pondering the idea that I might identify as pansexual rather than straight (or bi curious as I usually refer to myself). I really don't think it has to do with any specific body part and more to do with a person's whole being. Not to say I don't have my physical preferences

I will say that as a Domme, I will play with all genders. However I am very picky with male subs.

As a sub it is almost opposite. For me, there has only ever been one woman who was able to make me feel subby. Otherwise it is usually masculine energy that has done it. Though I'm not opposed, it would take a special fem presenting person to Dom me.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

This is different for me based on their role. But in either role I need somebody who is going to communicate well and consistently. I want somebody who is responsible and has their life together. I tend to look for long term arrangements even if they are casual but long term. I want somebody easy to talk to, funny, playful, well spoken, drama free.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

I do not want to play with anybody who is entitled, whiney, rude, disrespectful or those seeking a quick wank and run.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

If it is a sub, then I usually let them know that I am pretty picky with who I play with. A lot of the time I just let them know that I am not looking for any sub partners at the moment. If I'm intrigued then we have an open conversation.

As for Dom's, I usually research them ahead of responding. If there are no red flags, then I let them know that I don't jump into anything. I usually give them materials or mine to read and ask them to read about me and see if they still think we are a good fit.

 

[Bloxo]

One thing that is great about this site and the scene in general is how inclusive it is, it doesn't matter your gender or your sexual orientation you are welcome here and I think few online groups can say they have this much tolerance for diversity of thought and preference, but it makes me think...we all have our preferences and we are all open in different ways, so who do you play with?

Okay, best to answer my own questionnaire

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

So the boring answer...I am straight, so I am only open to play with women and without wanting to sound bigoted but CIS women

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

I always value creativity, it's cool to try new things and to have detailed and fun challenges to do
I like someone who can be cheeky and a bit bratty, it's fun to have some banter!
I prefer girls who look after themselves, both mentally and physically, who have some self respect and see their own value!
I like to play with Switches who are competitive, it helps to drive me when I am being challenged

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

I have no time for those who are selfish or who seem quite disconnected or with low effort, I'm not looking to do everything to keep a relationship going and I want to see someone who is engaged without being flaky.
If someone is too demanding it can also be a negative, I lead a busy life and can't commit 24/7
I also have no time for people who are rude, I like kind and nice people balanced with some naughtiness and cheekiness

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

I don't get many requests, like I guess with a lot of guy though I do check out profiles and background to better establish who I'm talking with and what they like compared to me, I will always be polite and will want to get to know them a bit before play begins, play is always more fun when you know someone and establish a level of trust

 

[baloo]

1. Do you have a specific gender you will play with or are you open to multiple genders?

No preferences whatsoever. This is not a gender thing, but some partners liked to slip into particular gender stereotype rules so that limits the type of play.

2. Are there any characteristics you look for in a play partner?

I look fore the bare necessities! Fairly standard vetting - trustworthiness, awareness, communication, open-mindedness. In addition to that, I look for humor and any sign they are aware of their inner spark.

3. Are there any types of people you do not wish to play with?

Uptight, arrogant people, and any who cannot laugh about themselves. I am also incompatible with certain religious and political views. There is also a bunch of rather nondescript patterns that I refuse to work with.

4. How do you react to people requesting play with you?

I engage in conversation. Start out with a bunch of weird questions, then start a quick vetting questionnaire to see if they are fundamentally compatible. From there it depends a lot on what they are looking for, how they behave and what their reaction to my weird questions are. If I am being contacted online I also see if they fall into one of the traps I laid out.