• 🎉 Happy New Year!
    I hope your 2026 is starting off fun, safe and kinky!
    We are so excited to have you here, and we can't wait to make 2026 the best year yet.
    If you are coming here from getDare, a special thank you for joining us.
    I am so sorry that your kink community has vanished, but I really hope that we can help fill that void.
    Please feel free to provide feedback or ask questions if you need anything!
    xx Butterfly 🦋

To those coming from getDare ....

Hello friends,

Welcome

Can I offer you a drink? Maybe a hot beverage? (I learned from Big Bang Theory that when somebody is upset, you offer them a hot beverage).

I know you are feeling lost right now, but I am so happy to have you here. I know things look a bit different, and it may not feel like home, but I want you to make yourself comfortable and settle in. You are welcome here!

If you need anything, please feel free to reach out to myself directly, or any of our mod team. There is also a whole section where you can post suggestions and give us feedback. We are still new and growing and we take your feedback seriously. @Inkwarden has been chained to a desk in a small room for the last 9 months to make our dreams of a Kinky Wonderland come true.

The untimely death of getDare

Let's address the elephant in the room - getDare is dead.

I am SO sorry for your loss. This was so sudden and terrible. I know that a lot of you are feeling heartbroken, sad, or regretful. You may have lost contact with friends, and lost all of your saved content. That really sucks and nothing that I can say will help you, other than I understand and I am here for you.

I went through my own mourning period when I lost getDare 9 months ago. Thankfully some of those wounds have healed and we have started to create a wonderful community of our own.

Kinky Wonderland was born

9 months ago, a lot of shit happened on getDare and I left (and then was removed as a mod and banned - if you want the full story, I might be willing to share later). It was really difficult, but I had been imagining a new kink community for years and this was a great opportunity to create it. Thankfully, the amazing @Inkwarden offered to help me make that vision come true, and thus Kinky Wonderland was born.

We are still new. We are still growing, learning and changing. Please let us know if there is something that you are missing from getDare, and we will do our best to help you find it, or see if we can do something to create it.

Please read our rules and check out the description of our forums if you are feeling a little lost.

I have tried to make things a little more organized, a little easier to navigate, and keeping the highlights of things that we loved about getDare - the requests, truths, add threads, chat room, and lounge, while also creating some new things, like our voice chat room, or the anonymous whispers section.

Where to start

If you are just joining, please take a look through our rules. Some of them might be a bit different from the ones you are used to. Two notable differences are that we have freed the nipple! and we also allow editing of your posts indefinitely. We also have a handy little guide to describe the forums and sections.

After you have filled out your profile (check out our flags option!), you might want to use the signature links forum to post information to link in your signature, or maybe you want to try and introduce yourself in the roll call forum.

Depending on what you are hoping for, there are sections for forums, blogs, personals, media, and stories.

If you are feeling extra social, come hang out in the chat room with us!

Happy exploring

Again, I am so happy to have you here. I have high hopes that we can create an amazing, fun, inclusive kink community and YOU are a big part of that!

Stay kinky friends!
 
Hello Butterfly,

As one of the former members from GetDare, and new discoverer of your site, I really appreciate your efforts to capture some of the good parts of that community! I really hope things work out here! After poking around the new site for a little bit, I think you capture the important parts of what was there and what is missing in some other communities. I was glad to hear of your site, and I am glad you are running it!

Best of luck! And let me know if I can help in anyway to make it better. I will be hoping to add to the community.

Also very interested to hear the details on your departure from GetDare, I didn't realize.

Best wishes,

Bored
 
Hi butterfly!

Thanks for this introductory message and all the work you already put in this community.

I'm, myself, a Kinktalk refugee.

Site went completely dark a few hours ago but with the help of a few other members (including one of the admin) we managed to gather a few of its active members on a Discord server and a FetLife group.
An email was also sent out to (what we think) the most active user base from the last year or so.

Are now directing those in search of asylum towards your Wonderful Wonderland.
I Thought I would reach out to let you know as you most likely get another spike in new members 😅

Cordially,

Mr.Rabbit

Edit: I will take one of those hot beverage you speak of...
 
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Thank you for making a place, and addressing the elephant in the room. I didn't go on Getdare often recently, but I still checked in from time to time, and had been super active on get Dare years ago with well over a 1000 posts. I know I have seen your posts and perhaps ran across you in chatroom before.

What else is possible?
 
Hi Butterfly,

I was until this morning an active Kinktalk member... and with no warning, I've lost everything, years of diaries of experiences and conversations and ideas, some of which I'd tried and some that I haven't.

Most painfully, all of the stuff between my Mistress and I that got me through the COVID years...

I'm not sure yet if I want to continue; my Mistress has recently stepped back from an active relationship and all my memories of that time are irreplaceable... But I saw your site and have registered for now because it seems easier to navigate than fetlife which I find too daunting... So thank you for this alternative space
 
Good day to you Butterfly,

Thank you for your most warmest of welcomes and imaginary beverages - I knew we'd be in good hands the second I saw your name come up. I am glad you are healing from whatever occured over on GD (I recall seeing you were banned suddenly months back and was curious when everything would blow up). I raise my fictional hot, hopefully alcoholic drink in your honour and wish you well with managing all this exciting new stuff.

A toast to new beginnings everyone: I look forward to embarking on this new journey and getting freaky with you all once again. Slàinte
 
Hi butterfly!

Thanks for this introductory message and all the work you already put in this community.

I'm, myself, a Kinktalk refugee.

Site went completely dark a few hours ago but with the help of a few other members (including one of the admin) we managed to gather a few of its active members on a Discord server and a FetLife group.
An email was also sent out to (what we think) the most active user base from the last year or so.

Are now directing those in search of asylum towards your Wonderful Wonderland.
I Thought I would reach out to let you know as you most likely get another spike in new members 😅

Cordially,

Mr.Rabbit

Edit: I will take one of those hot beverage you speak of...
Hi Butterfly,

I was until this morning an active Kinktalk member... and with no warning, I've lost everything, years of diaries of experiences and conversations and ideas, some of which I'd tried and some that I haven't.

Most painfully, all of the stuff between my Mistress and I that got me through the COVID years...

I'm not sure yet if I want to continue; my Mistress has recently stepped back from an active relationship and all my memories of that time are irreplaceable... But I saw your site and have registered for now because it seems easier to navigate than fetlife which I find too daunting... So thank you for this alternative space
Yeah. It was strange to get an email about the site going down/ “not sure how long it will be up”. But that was a tiny bit more than just going dark like GD. I had gotten a PM New Year’s Eve and didn’t know that was going to be the last time it was up.

Anyway, thanks Butterfly for having this set up and coming in as a safety net. I can’t wait to see the communities mesh and improve going forward.
 
Thanks again Butterfly and everyone involved with KinkyWonderland - its something you didn't have to do, and now you're taking in a lot of GD refugees which is super awesome (to bad it wasn't under different circumstances though).
 
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