To those coming from getDare ....

Hello friends,

Welcome

Can I offer you a drink? Maybe a hot beverage? (I learned from Big Bang Theory that when somebody is upset, you offer them a hot beverage).

I know you are feeling lost right now, but I am so happy to have you here. I know things look a bit different, and it may not feel like home, but I want you to make yourself comfortable and settle in. You are welcome here!

If you need anything, please feel free to reach out to myself directly, or any of our mod team. There is also a whole section where you can post suggestions and give us feedback. We are still new and growing and we take your feedback seriously. @Inkwarden has been chained to a desk in a small room for the last 9 months to make our dreams of a Kinky Wonderland come true.

The untimely death of getDare

Let's address the elephant in the room - getDare is dead.

I am SO sorry for your loss. This was so sudden and terrible. I know that a lot of you are feeling heartbroken, sad, or regretful. You may have lost contact with friends, and lost all of your saved content. That really sucks and nothing that I can say will help you, other than I understand and I am here for you.

I went through my own mourning period when I lost getDare 9 months ago. Thankfully some of those wounds have healed and we have started to create a wonderful community of our own.

Kinky Wonderland was born

9 months ago, a lot of shit happened on getDare and I left (and then was removed as a mod and banned - if you want the full story, I might be willing to share later). It was really difficult, but I had been imagining a new kink community for years and this was a great opportunity to create it. Thankfully, the amazing @Inkwarden offered to help me make that vision come true, and thus Kinky Wonderland was born.

We are still new. We are still growing, learning and changing. Please let us know if there is something that you are missing from getDare, and we will do our best to help you find it, or see if we can do something to create it.

Please read our rules and check out the description of our forums if you are feeling a little lost.

I have tried to make things a little more organized, a little easier to navigate, and keeping the highlights of things that we loved about getDare - the requests, truths, add threads, chat room, and lounge, while also creating some new things, like our voice chat room, or the anonymous whispers section.

Where to start

If you are just joining, please take a look through our rules. Some of them might be a bit different from the ones you are used to. Two notable differences are that we have freed the nipple! and we also allow editing of your posts indefinitely. We also have a handy little guide to describe the forums and sections.

After you have filled out your profile (check out our flags option!), you might want to use the signature links forum to post information to link in your signature, or maybe you want to try and introduce yourself in the roll call forum.

Depending on what you are hoping for, there are sections for forums, blogs, personals, media, and stories.

If you are feeling extra social, come hang out in the chat room with us!

Happy exploring

Again, I am so happy to have you here. I have high hopes that we can create an amazing, fun, inclusive kink community and YOU are a big part of that!

Stay kinky friends!

UPDATE:
I have made two new posts that I wanted to share
My getDare story and demise
What happened to getDare

 

[Bored]

Hello Butterfly,

As one of the former members from GetDare, and new discoverer of your site, I really appreciate your efforts to capture some of the good parts of that community! I really hope things work out here! After poking around the new site for a little bit, I think you capture the important parts of what was there and what is missing in some other communities. I was glad to hear of your site, and I am glad you are running it!

Best of luck! And let me know if I can help in anyway to make it better. I will be hoping to add to the community.

Also very interested to hear the details on your departure from GetDare, I didn't realize.

Best wishes,

Bored

 

[Got2BeRabbit]

Hi butterfly!

Thanks for this introductory message and all the work you already put in this community.

I'm, myself, a Kinktalk refugee.

Site went completely dark a few hours ago but with the help of a few other members (including one of the admin) we managed to gather a few of its active members on a Discord server and a FetLife group.
An email was also sent out to (what we think) the most active user base from the last year or so.

Are now directing those in search of asylum towards your Wonderful Wonderland.
I Thought I would reach out to let you know as you most likely get another spike in new members

Cordially,

Mr.Rabbit

Edit: I will take one of those hot beverage you speak of...

 

[Kinky Shaman]

Thank you for making a place, and addressing the elephant in the room. I didn't go on Getdare often recently, but I still checked in from time to time, and had been super active on get Dare years ago with well over a 1000 posts. I know I have seen your posts and perhaps ran across you in chatroom before.

What else is possible?

 

[misskubo]

Hi Butterfly,

I was until this morning an active Kinktalk member... and with no warning, I've lost everything, years of diaries of experiences and conversations and ideas, some of which I'd tried and some that I haven't.

Most painfully, all of the stuff between my Mistress and I that got me through the COVID years...

I'm not sure yet if I want to continue; my Mistress has recently stepped back from an active relationship and all my memories of that time are irreplaceable... But I saw your site and have registered for now because it seems easier to navigate than fetlife which I find too daunting... So thank you for this alternative space

 

[dmd]

Good day to you Butterfly,

Thank you for your most warmest of welcomes and imaginary beverages - I knew we'd be in good hands the second I saw your name come up. I am glad you are healing from whatever occured over on GD (I recall seeing you were banned suddenly months back and was curious when everything would blow up). I raise my fictional hot, hopefully alcoholic drink in your honour and wish you well with managing all this exciting new stuff.

A toast to new beginnings everyone: I look forward to embarking on this new journey and getting freaky with you all once again. Slàinte

 

[Blue Griffin]

Hi butterfly!

Thanks for this introductory message and all the work you already put in this community.

I'm, myself, a Kinktalk refugee.

Site went completely dark a few hours ago but with the help of a few other members (including one of the admin) we managed to gather a few of its active members on a Discord server and a FetLife group.
An email was also sent out to (what we think) the most active user base from the last year or so.

Are now directing those in search of asylum towards your Wonderful Wonderland.
I Thought I would reach out to let you know as you most likely get another spike in new members

Cordially,

Mr.Rabbit

Edit: I will take one of those hot beverage you speak of...

Hi Butterfly,

I was until this morning an active Kinktalk member... and with no warning, I've lost everything, years of diaries of experiences and conversations and ideas, some of which I'd tried and some that I haven't.

Most painfully, all of the stuff between my Mistress and I that got me through the COVID years...

I'm not sure yet if I want to continue; my Mistress has recently stepped back from an active relationship and all my memories of that time are irreplaceable... But I saw your site and have registered for now because it seems easier to navigate than fetlife which I find too daunting... So thank you for this alternative space

Yeah. It was strange to get an email about the site going down/ “not sure how long it will be up”. But that was a tiny bit more than just going dark like GD. I had gotten a PM New Year’s Eve and didn’t know that was going to be the last time it was up.

Anyway, thanks Butterfly for having this set up and coming in as a safety net. I can’t wait to see the communities mesh and improve going forward.

 

[ToyGirl]

Thanks again Butterfly and everyone involved with KinkyWonderland - its something you didn't have to do, and now you're taking in a lot of GD refugees which is super awesome (to bad it wasn't under different circumstances though).

 

[Maish]

Thank you so much for having created this place, Butterfly A google search for closure of Getdare brought me to Reddit, which brought me here Until today, I didn't know that you had created a new place, although I remember you from Getdare and had noticed your exit from there.
Fingers crossed that all the other amazing people from Getdare will also find there way to here.

And yes, the closure of Getdare was very sudden. I even had a poll going on, which I will never know the potential end result of

 

[mafiaka]

Funny thing ... I lurked on and off (maybe a bit afraid to disturb the idyllic peace here), but the torrent of people here is like a group of kids that hoped to go to a lunapark, which was found to be closed, and then got taken for a trip to a big playground. After the first five sad moments, all the kids are playing the games they did before.

It is indeed a kind of a Wonderland.

Thanks Butterfly and team!

 

[Rock01]

Hi Butterfly,

I was also on GD, sometimes more regularly than others. Just found your site from Reddit after looking for what was going on. Thanks for setting it up, and I’m sure I’ll check in and play some games occasionally.

 

[Manarus]

Hey Butterfly,

this is amazing! Your words truly helped. I was very sad of the loss of all the content, dares, storries, etc on getdare...
But I have to say, at a first look at the changes, this site seems even better to me than gd, while keeping everything that made gd special. I love nipples and I love the possibility to keep the first post editable, to update rules and statistics... What a great start. A new chapter begins.

Oh by the way, I was able to save a few (not much) content of gd from the web cache. If sb is interested or looking for something feel free to contact me

 

[Jolly*FtM]

I would do anything if i could save my blogposts. I tried with the archive thing, but my blog was not public as far as i know. I have no idea how to get it.

 

[Butterfly]

Hello Butterfly,

As one of the former members from GetDare, and new discoverer of your site, I really appreciate your efforts to capture some of the good parts of that community! I really hope things work out here! After poking around the new site for a little bit, I think you capture the important parts of what was there and what is missing in some other communities. I was glad to hear of your site, and I am glad you are running it!

Best of luck! And let me know if I can help in anyway to make it better. I will be hoping to add to the community.

Also very interested to hear the details on your departure from GetDare, I didn't realize.

Best wishes,

Bored

Welcome to Kinky Wonderland!

Right now the biggest help is being active!

I will plan to post another blog this weekend sometime to share the details since I have had a lot of people asking.

 

[Butterfly]

Hi butterfly!

Thanks for this introductory message and all the work you already put in this community.

I'm, myself, a Kinktalk refugee.

Site went completely dark a few hours ago but with the help of a few other members (including one of the admin) we managed to gather a few of its active members on a Discord server and a FetLife group.
An email was also sent out to (what we think) the most active user base from the last year or so.

Are now directing those in search of asylum towards your Wonderful Wonderland.
I Thought I would reach out to let you know as you most likely get another spike in new members

Cordially,

Mr.Rabbit

Edit: I will take one of those hot beverage you speak of...

I am so glad that those on Kink Talk had a bit of notice and were able to rally together to stay in touch.
Thank you for directing people here. We are so happy to take in any refugees and welcome you with open arms.

*hands over your hot beverage of choice*

 

[Butterfly]

Thank you for making a place, and addressing the elephant in the room. I didn't go on Getdare often recently, but I still checked in from time to time, and had been super active on get Dare years ago with well over a 1000 posts. I know I have seen your posts and perhaps ran across you in chatroom before.

What else is possible?

Welcome! We are happy to have you here.

 

[Butterfly]

Hi Butterfly,

I was until this morning an active Kinktalk member... and with no warning, I've lost everything, years of diaries of experiences and conversations and ideas, some of which I'd tried and some that I haven't.

Most painfully, all of the stuff between my Mistress and I that got me through the COVID years...

I'm not sure yet if I want to continue; my Mistress has recently stepped back from an active relationship and all my memories of that time are irreplaceable... But I saw your site and have registered for now because it seems easier to navigate than fetlife which I find too daunting... So thank you for this alternative space

That is so hard. I am sad for all those who have lost content and connections. On getDare I had over 500 blogs, so I totally get it!

The stuff between your Mistress and you is even more tragic. At least you can still hold on to those memories.

I understand being unsure, but we are here if you decide to stick around. I also find Fetlife daunting and just not easy to use for community building. I use it only for in person things. Hopefully this can be a fun, safe space for you.

 

[Butterfly]

Good day to you Butterfly,

Thank you for your most warmest of welcomes and imaginary beverages - I knew we'd be in good hands the second I saw your name come up. I am glad you are healing from whatever occured over on GD (I recall seeing you were banned suddenly months back and was curious when everything would blow up). I raise my fictional hot, hopefully alcoholic drink in your honour and wish you well with managing all this exciting new stuff.

A toast to new beginnings everyone: I look forward to embarking on this new journey and getting freaky with you all once again. Slàinte

Aww, that is very sweet of you to say. I will be sharing my story soon, so keep an eye on the blog section.
Cheers to you my friend!

 

[Butterfly]

Thank you so much for having created this place, Butterfly A google search for closure of Getdare brought me to Reddit, which brought me here Until today, I didn't know that you had created a new place, although I remember you from Getdare and had noticed your exit from there.
Fingers crossed that all the other amazing people from Getdare will also find there way to here.

And yes, the closure of Getdare was very sudden. I even had a poll going on, which I will never know the potential end result of

I am so glad that there is something on Reddit that is directing people here.
I created this space about 9 months ago and we have been slowly growing, but things have exploded the last 48 hours and I am thrilled to have you all here.

You will just have to recreate your poll here!

Yeah. It was strange to get an email about the site going down/ “not sure how long it will be up”. But that was a tiny bit more than just going dark like GD. I had gotten a PM New Year’s Eve and didn’t know that was going to be the last time it was up.

Anyway, thanks Butterfly for having this set up and coming in as a safety net. I can’t wait to see the communities mesh and improve going forward.

I am so sorry that happened.

Thanks again Butterfly and everyone involved with KinkyWonderland - its something you didn't have to do, and now you're taking in a lot of GD refugees which is super awesome (to bad it wasn't under different circumstances though).

It is a passion project for me. getDare meant so much to me and when I lost it, there was a massive voice. I am happy that I was able to have this set up before things fell apart. It made the transition much smoother.

 

[Butterfly]

Funny thing ... I lurked on and off (maybe a bit afraid to disturb the idyllic peace here), but the torrent of people here is like a group of kids that hoped to go to a lunapark, which was found to be closed, and then got taken for a trip to a big playground. After the first five sad moments, all the kids are playing the games they did before.

It is indeed a kind of a Wonderland.

Thanks Butterfly and team!

Oh! I am so sad you just lurked and didn't want to get involved. I want us to be a welcoming space and encourage everybody to get involved as much as they want!

I know that there is still an air of sadness and mourning, but I am so glad that people have a place to commiserate and heal together.

Hi Butterfly,

I was also on GD, sometimes more regularly than others. Just found your site from Reddit after looking for what was going on. Thanks for setting it up, and I’m sure I’ll check in and play some games occasionally.

Yay! Happy to have you