How would you describe your Dominant style (e.g., strict, nurturing, sadistic)?
Very much nurturing. I feel at home helping guide and motivate someone to do something I can see their potensial in, but maybe they culdn't/didn't, I also ery much enjoy a more fun laied back and light teasing atmosphere. I can be strict though and do enjoy that aspect when it happens. So nutring/fun/teasing/strict (:
What’s your favorite aspect of being a Dom?
Trust. Knowing that someone has placed their trust in me with somehing that can lead to some deep pysical and mental spaces. It is a big thing that means a lot to me.
How did you discover your Dominant side?
At much the same time I discovered I was bratty. Or more accuratly, accepted I was bratty. Prior to that I had enjoyed the nurturing side, but it is certainly an aspect of my brat that I enjoy the stricter and more sadistic parts. Took accepting the brat to understand that level to myself
How long have you been in the lifestyle?
In and out over 15 years, hounestly not sure on the number, but it has been at least that length of time. Proberbly a little more than half of it out due to IRL, but hard to tell.
What do you value most in a D/s dynamic?
The shared bound it can create and the trust it can build. Few experiances in my life have created a bound quite so rich and deep.
What do you think makes a power exchange healthy and sustainable?
Comunication, trust and hounesty. I see them as 3 important pillars, Without them the roof will fall in. They can sometimes be a challenge and certainly take time to build. But are vital none the less.
How do you approach negotiation and establishing limits?
As throughly as I can. I am careful and will often ask more than is needed and re ask some things. I would rather hae more knowlidge than is needed and check everything is right. Accidents can happen, but I do my best to ensure every option is put in place to minimze them.
How do you handle aftercare, both giving and receiving?
Hugs are great for aftercare, but it is something that would differ bassed upon the person.
What qualities do you look for in a submissive?
Hounesty, openness and a willingness to try even if they may fail. Hounesty is a big must for me anyway, double so with kink. When it comes to tasks, I can be and certainly will be very proud of the effort put in even on a failed task. I have also never seen failure as failing more a set back that taught you 1 more way it cant be done. From that we learn and grow.
How do you build trust with a new partner?
Time and communication, I will stay well within lower task levels in that time to really get to know them and them me.
What red flags would make you walk away from a dynamic?
Over the top eager of everything, this is a tricky one because I like eager, but when it is endless push harder noothing is enough energy, yeah I am out. That and lies and immidiate hounerifics. Hounerifics can be a great inclusion in a dynamic, but I truely feel they are earned on both sides through time and a bound. To have that thrown in hap hazrdly feels very wrong to me.
Do you believe being a Dom is something you are, or something you do?
Both, I belive there are aspects of a persons pyche that is gratiied by aspects of dominance and that is something you are. But how you go about it and adapt it to cover what you and another person enjoys to make it work for both, that is something you do.
What’s something you wish more people understood about Dominance?
I dont know that I can really answer this one as inttended. The reason being is that dominance is such a different thing for us all. Each of us has our own approch that we adapt based on needs, and that adapts what the dominance is. I guess the only thing would be that it is rarely about the power, sure there is some power ballance fuckery and that can be fun, but it is about more than that, something deaper. And that thing will be different depening on who you ask.
If you could create your ideal scene, what would it look like?
Hounestly the look like question allways makes me giggle. I have no idea and never will. I don imagine images (thanks aphantasia *giggles*) I imagine feelings, sounds, smells, touch. Those would be ar more relevent to me. So I will switch it to that as I am sure no one will mind. It would be plenty of giggles and fun to begin with. maybe some teasing, maybe not. The middle would very much be an array of pleasure and pain on the milder end with sounds to match, maybe some whips or paddels. Some vibes. Lots of moans of pleasure and pain. The end would be taking the pleasure to its hights and seeing how far it could go. But all that would depend on who the scene is with. My ideal scene is alwasy about finding the perfect match of wishes and needs
