What is a life lesson that you learned from kink? Maybe it is something that you learned about yourself, other people, or the world in general. This could be something serious or something funny. Tell us your life lessons and the story behind it.
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Life lessons
- Thread starter Butterfly
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Freedom is a highly overrated phenomenon. I am much happier when my control is limited, preferably by someone ho wants what's best for me. Freedom is just an overload of possibility that drives me insane.
I really agree with this and couldn't of put it better so thank you
Through being a Domme, I have learned confidence! Honestly, it has been so good for my self confidence!
I also have learned that it is ok to ask for what you want/need.
I also have learned that it is ok to ask for what you want/need.
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- Apr 28, 2025
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- Pride
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This is a bit of a chicken-and-egg situation, not sure which really came first but both drove home the lesson learned so I just share it:
There is this philosophical model that any concept is both itself and its counterpart, basically when you define "red", you automatically also define "not red", so the two are in effect the same concept.
In kink, as I explored more with my switch nature - taking on the dominant role to be precise - I discovered that I can appreciate and exploit my submissive state way better, now that I have experienced the dominant one. It works the same other way around, too. Experiencing how a dynamic feels from the sub side is what enables me to dominate.
It is this reconciliation of opposites that changed my world view, and a lesson I never fully absorbed until then: Whenever you find a conflict, there is something to be learned and for everyone involved to grow. Or: Seek out those who think differently, and expand your horizon.
There is this philosophical model that any concept is both itself and its counterpart, basically when you define "red", you automatically also define "not red", so the two are in effect the same concept.
In kink, as I explored more with my switch nature - taking on the dominant role to be precise - I discovered that I can appreciate and exploit my submissive state way better, now that I have experienced the dominant one. It works the same other way around, too. Experiencing how a dynamic feels from the sub side is what enables me to dominate.
It is this reconciliation of opposites that changed my world view, and a lesson I never fully absorbed until then: Whenever you find a conflict, there is something to be learned and for everyone involved to grow. Or: Seek out those who think differently, and expand your horizon.
As a sub I've learned to be more confident and open to exploring and trying out new things. To step out of the comfort zone more. This has extended to my vanilla life also.