Your Kinky Origin Story

[Butterfly]

Just as superheroes and villains have origin stories, how they became powerful or got that chip on their soldier that pushes them to hurt others or take down the world, we as kinksters all have our own origin story. I love hearing others journeys!

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?
2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?
3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?
4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?
5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??
6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?
7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?
8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

 

[The Brat Princess]

How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

I was about 17 ISH when I discovered the terminology and understood for the first time what I had been feeling. Though I had been doing stuff, mostly self bondage prior. I just hadn't been aware there was a name for it or that others had similar interests.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

Yep there were hints right throughout my teen years. Hints of my bratty side throughout my childhood too. As I have said I was doing self bondage since teen years. Though simple stuff by comparison. Also I remember being a rather bratty child. As I was being punished I would often use phrases such as 'is that the best you can do?' and it always turned out no... No it wasn't lol. Just didn't see that in that light then.

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

A GF we explored a little. But it really wasn't her thing.

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

Solo. Timed release bondage setups.

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

I began identifying as a sub. While I felt bratty urges I would repress them as I didn't know that was an ok thing to feel. I thought that would make me bad and no one would enjoy that. I moved away from kink only fluttering back for short bouts after my 20s because of a relationship with a mostly vanilla person. It has only been recently I have returned and began truly exploring. Since then I found I identify more as a brat and a switch.

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

My first kink community was GD in my mid 20s though I didn't create an account then and forgot about the site after, it did allow me to learn some about the community and accept those parts of me.

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

Yes. Kink has thought me the true value of communication and trust. I feel too much of vanilla experience is feel based. If the vibe feels right do it and I never understood that and always felt lost. With kink there is a deeper communication on what the dos and don'ts are, what is liked and what isn't. There is a deeper richer communication and a requirement of more trust, but far more reward to being that open.

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

Hounestly, I am not sure. I have gone from being entirely subby to mostly Dommy. I guess proberbly to find the Ballance of both that works for me.

 

[MessyAshy]

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?
I was about 10, laying in my bed fantasizing about a girl who bullied me getting slimed and humiliated like in those tv shows, when i suddenly experienced my sexual awakening. So I've been kinky for as long as I've had sexual urges.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?
Completely caught me off guard. Even when it did happen it would still be a year or 2 before i got the idea to google what the hell was happening to me.

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?
I quite honestly do not remember. I didn't talk about it with anyone for the longest time. I wasn't gonna tell anyone i knew personally, and i was never dumb enough to go browsing for kinky contacts online as a minor. i think the first person i told was a friend i met on WoW, well into adulthood.

4. What was your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?
A night home alone, spreading nutella on my feet and licking it off. Interesting start, but there is such a thing as too much nutella.

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??
I've always been a sub to my core. I get too self-conscious commanding others.

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?
It was Getdare. It was a nice place to get some kinky tasks from the forums, being dominated without actually having to interact directly. Then one day, well into adulthood, i joined the chat channels, and made some long term kinky friends.

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?
Hard to say, maybe I had them inside of me already, but kink put a clearer language to it. The importance of consent, accepting each other even when we don't fully understand each other, the importance of clear, open, honest communication... I think a lot of the vanilla world could learn a thing or two from kink in those areas.

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?
I found a nice sissy group that's at least in the same country as me, if still a bit far from where I live. That could be my opening into in-person play. Finding a long term Domme would be cool, got a few personals up here n there. Other than that, we'll see.

 

[Butterfly]

Just as superheroes and villains have origin stories, how they became powerful or got that chip on their soldier that pushes them to hurt others or take down the world, we as kinksters all have our own origin story. I love hearing others journeys!

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

I was 16 when I first discovered kink. It was while watching CSI. They had an episode where a guy died from asphyxiation in a BDSM club. This was the first time that I ever felt the feeling of being turned on.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

I think there were hints of my sadistic side, but it honestly blind sided me.

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

I met an online Dom in a personals ad on a site like craigslist. He was looking for a live in slave. I responded to his ad and told him that I was not open to that even though we lived in the same city and he started to give me tasks online as we discussed kinks.

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

My first in person experience was using an anal plug for the first time. I used pantyhose to kind of create a crotch rope and hung it on a hook in the bathroom to keep the plug deep inside me.

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

I definitely felt like I was a sub for the longest time. Every fantasy, I imagined me in that role. It took me a long time to discover my Domme side. Now I identify as a switch.

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

I found my first online kink community when I was searching for truth or dare questions to play with an online friend.

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

Kink has taught me so much about myself. It has helped me work through a lot of my past traumas, it has taught me confidence and built me up.

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

I want to just always be experimenting, learning and exploring. Hopefully with new and amazing people.

 

[picaboo]

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

So I don't know how old I was but young way to young really. I use to play this game called RuneScape a popular online game. Part of the game is a completely open and fairly unrestricted chat and I would play with these 2 guys a lot and some times it would turn sexual at the time they were much older and I had no sexual experience but after talking to them for a bit they convinced me to try some things on my own started with different ways to masturbate or things to use and turned into some pee play and just went on from there for a bit.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

Idk it seemed like a pretty natural thing at the time.

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

Those 2 guys from online and than I quickly started talking about stuff with friends seeing if they did anything like that

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

My first time with a physical partner was in middle school and it was my boy friend at the time spanking me with a belt

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

A submissive very quickly. By the time I was around 16 or so I really understood what I was into and really set into masochism.

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

A guy I was with when I was 19 took me to my first public dungeon and I started to meet and network with people from there

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

Kink has taught me almost everything about my self. Honestly if it wasn't for kink I wouldnt be here. Kink taught me a way to help enjoy my self and be able to freely think with out feeling guilty for my thoughts.

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

I'm actively getting more involved in my local scene trying hard to introduce a lot of new comers to kink. Lately kink has been really popular but a lot of people come into it with false ideas and some times dangerous and abusive ones especially thanks to media such as 50shades. I'm really trying to help new comers understand what the actual dynamics can be and help people understand the difference between safe, same, consensual kink VS. abusive relationships and dynamics.

 

[Jaro]

Just as superheroes and villains have origin stories, how they became powerful or got that chip on their soldier that pushes them to hurt others or take down the world, we as kinksters all have our own origin story. I love hearing others journeys!

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

I really don't remember, but my guess is maybe 16 when I discovered part of it. It was however not until my 30s that I really started to get into it.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

No hints really. I was a very innocent guy until my 30s.

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

You I think

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

Solo it was that time when I was about 16 and tied myself up. Next time was in my early 30s when I experimented with self-bondage again. In person was with you.

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

I didn't identify as anything at first until I learned what that al meant.

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

It was that other site who shall not be named. I think I discovered it because I was googling feet-related dares.

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

It taught me that I am submissive, much more daring than I ever thought I was, and how much of a pervert I really am!

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

It would be fun to find a real-life play partner close to me. I'd also love to find an online (or offline) female 'dare devil' who I can regularly give tasks and dares to for her to complete and report on.
Neither are a big priority but it would be nice.

 

[Fat Man]

Just as superheroes and villains have origin stories, how they became powerful or got that chip on their soldier that pushes them to hurt others or take down the world, we as kinksters all have our own origin story. I love hearing others journeys!

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

I was young and it was strictly through watching porn.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

I was always interested in it from watching videos of it

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

A girl i worked with. I use to work as a store manager and i hired this girl she came to work a lot with marks on her body that i became concerned with because it looked like abuse. I confronted her about it a few times and she finally explained her kinky side to me and we talked about it a bunch and she bought me to the people she played with and i got to learn a lot about it and started doing some bondage with her.

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

See above

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

I started as a dorm that’s what interested me. I have been told i am more of a sadists now.

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

See Q3

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

No

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

I have no idea. It’s definitely gone further than i ever thought it would.

 

[snoek]

Just as superheroes and villains have origin stories, how they became powerful or got that chip on their soldier that pushes them to hurt others or take down the world, we as kinksters all have our own origin story. I love hearing others journeys!

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

I don't really remember, got my first vibe when I was 17. I was 19 when I joined gd, ever since then it has been a rollercoaster of self discovery.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

I think so yes, I always kinda enjoyed things that hurt, but didn't harm, and tried self bondage quite a few times.

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

Ehh, honestly Probably people in get dare, mostly because before they In didnt know they much myself...

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

Probably some form of self bondage with my vibe bound to my clit, not sure tho.

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

I started as a very much 1000% sub, I even struggled with adding to people's add thread because if felt mean. Over time, and with the help of princess, I've been more and more able to become myself in my kink and because more and more bratty, and lately I've even had the ability to find my own Dom side, which I can now also quite enjoy hihi

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

My first kink community was the place we don't talk about.

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

That communication is important, as is standing up for yourself. It also thought me that I should be more of a brat in more parts of my live than just kink.

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

I think ther will just be discovering More. meeting Princess in person and some in person play will probably be a next big step for me, as is discovering my own dom side More I think when I'm in the mood for that.

 

[Babygirlblackout]

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time? 28, I found some M/s erotica online
2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you? Maybe some little hints that I never thought meant what it did lol
3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side? A close friend who didn’t have a great reaction to it
4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)? Solo
5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time?? I started as a sub, then found a switchy side later on
6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us? I googled different terms from the erotica I read and that led me to find fetlife first
7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't? Yes! So much
8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey? I want to meet more local kinksters and go to this masters and slaves meetup

 

[Cstelle]

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

I was in my teens when I understood that there were such thinks as fetishes and sexual kinks. I found them through pornography - but it was all whips, leather, and thigh-high boots, and that stuff doesn't do much for me.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

The first erotic dream I can remember involved me being bound, humiliated, and exposed - and I I was very young at the time. Those thoughts disappeared when I became sexually active, and stayed hidden until I (later in life) came to realise that I am not, nor have I ever been, straight. (I don't know what I am - it changes with the weather - so I'm now trying the label queer.) I got to enjoy other ways of having sex - and in connection with that I also started to unlock old needs and joys...

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

A question of definition. I'm not sure what I would include in "my kinky side" - and in one sense I haven't yet "talked" to anybody about it.

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

The new beginnings of my sexual life was of course mostly solo. Is gay sex kinky? What if it involves a little light subbing? I really don't know what to include in kink!

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

I've never been able to fix on a particular label (nor do I feel a need for doing so) but I have been finding "new things" to try and enjoy!

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

My first kink community was gD, which I found when I was looking for (I think - it was a long time ago) discussions on exhibitionism.

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

I joke that my super hero name is Captain Vanilla. I guess I don't see my kink as a thing separate from my vanilla life.

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

There are steps?? Why didn't anybody tell me!? I can't do steps! My knees! Don't you people have elevators??

 

[DG031003]

1. I was 18 and discovered I liked bdsm and being a sub specifically due to finding sites like getdare and getting involved with other community members.
2. Throughout my life up until that point I never thought on my self as a submissive person. But once I found that side of myself I embraced it.
3. It was an online dom who took the time to explain this lifestyle to me and helped me through a lot.
4. I’ve had vanilla sexual encounters in person but never a sub/dom interaction in person. But when it comes to solo probably anal play.
5. I started identifying as a sub when I was 18 which was around 4 years ago.
6. I don’t even remember how I found my first kink community. I think I was just researching bdsm online.
7. It has taught me that I have a different side of myself that I was unaware of
8. I honestly don’t know but I hope it involves in person dom/sub interactions.

 

[Vulparion]

1. How old were you, and how did you discover kink for the first time?

14 and I did find out that feet doe really attract me and I did some research where I also did learn more about kinks and did experiment with them later. Feet, Watersports, bdsm and enemas have been some of my earliest discovered kinks I'm into.

2. Looking back, were there hints at your kinky side? or did it blind side you?

both moreless it did blind side me but if I think back there were hints.

3. Who was the first person you talked to about your kinky side?

with some randoms online on an naughty chat plattform

4. What as your first in person experience with kink (solo or with a partner)?

solo at first, later with partners.

5. Did you start off identifying as a sub/dom/switch/sadist etc.? Did that change over time??

no I did try everything first until I had the answer, no it didn't really changed.

6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?6. How did you find your first kink community? or is that us?

I just googled my kinks online. And no but I with my research with my enema kink I did find getdare and after getdare died, I did find this community here :3

7. Has kink taught you anything about yourself that your vanilla life didn't?

It definetly tell alot about myself and I doubt I would have discovered all the sensations and also parts of myself if I would have been just vanilla

8. What are the next steps in your kinky journey?

I just try to use opportunities and I don't making plans on what comes next, but when there is a chance to do something kinky I would like to try, I gonna take the chance.