Many submissive women find it humiliating yet arousing to have her freedom to use the toilet at a time of her choosing, and according to her perceptions of her bodily needs, taken away from her. This is a brief overview from the dominant's point of view of using this a a disciplinary technique, as rescued from my old GD account.
Bathroom use control can be a very effective way of disciplining an errant submissive by forcing her to submit to a schedule you impose on her. The simple need to pee means she will never be able to put it off forever so she has to confront it whether she wants to or not.
Losing control of such a basic bodily function reinforces her position as somebody who does not deserve the same level of control over her actions as others.
Toilet use control is mostly an exercise in humiliation. It is most effective when the submissive feels embarrassed or ashamed of having to follow the schedule or perform related activities. Praising her for obedience can also positively reinforce her submission to you.
Building on those, the good dominant or disciplinarian using toilet restriction has a number of tools at his fingertips:
Frequency of permitted toilet use must be realistic and achievable by the submissive. The good dominant finds out how often his sub normally uses the toilet and reduces it from there.
Most women carrying out a small to average amount of exercise will want to pee between 4 and 6 times a day. 5 is a good starting point to reduce from. A very physically active girl (sports, ballet, etc) will pee more often than that.
Be very aware of timings. 95% of people want to pee as soon as they get up in the morning and extended morning holds will often not be possible unless your intention is to produce a deliberate wetting or moment of disobedience. Let her pee early on under controlled conditions and then you have her in a known state for the morning.
Allowing three or fewer toilet visits in a day will mean your sub will use the toilet without permission, wet herself or spend the day unable to concentrate on anything other than her bladder while becomig dehydrated.
Think carefully about the effect you want to achieve before putting her on 3 or fewer. An unavoidable wetting may make her lose respect for you because she thinks she's seen through your illusion of false choice. Avoid this situation.
2. Scheduling
A schedule with fixed times for toilet use is the least intensive for you as the disciplinarian to monitor. Picking the times is a matter of experience but there are some guidelines that will help.
A properly hydrated submissive woman who drinks half a litre / a pint of water within 5 minutes can comfortably hold her bladder for 30-40 minutes. She will have between 10 and 20 minutes beyond that where holding is increasingly uncomfortable. In the following 15 minutes she will begin repeatedly begging for permission to go and risks losing control there.
The point of a disciplinary toilet schedule is to set the submissive a difficult but not impossible target to meet. Toilet uses should therefore be no more than 4.5 hours apart.
If your schedule includes set amounts to drink at fixed times, you will need to space drinking and toilet times apart. There is little to be gained from making her pee straight after a drink, and refilling her bladder directly after she has emptied it tends to make her want to pee very quickly. About 20 minutes is a good space of time between these two activities.
3a. Reporting methods - in person
Supervision in person does not need much explanation but I will briefly cover it for completeness.
You may have your sub report to you when she has been to pee, or you may supervise more closely. Reporting to you can be as simple as her saying "I have been to pee at my assigned time, Sir" or by her asking for permission to go.
Remember the schedule if you have her ask permission in advance. It is fun, and sometimes necessary, to make her wait, but avoid the scenario where a pre-determined schedule falls apart at your whims.
Personal supervision is a suitable form of humiliation for a sub who may have been caught masturbating without permission or whose demeanour means she cannot be trusted when alone with her knickers down.
You may choose to take her to the toilet (or potty, shower, garden etc) and supervise in person. She will find this very humiliating, and for the first few times she may be unable to pee at all unless you turn your back. Even then she might only be able to let a trickle go rather than fully emptying her bladder. In this scenario you may want to balance the strict disciplinary measure with some pragmatic thinking.
Training her to be able to pee in front of you is really a separate topic, but you can be sure that her desperation will eventually overcome her shyness. Be aware that a new or inexperienced submissive will need enforced drinking rules if you supervise in person because she will want to minimise her humiliation by not drinking, and thus not needing to pee.
3b. Reporting methods - remote
Remotely monitoring a submissive's toilet use requires trust and honesty.
The easiest monitoring method is for her to call you whenever she is permitted to go, or needs to ask you for permission to go. This could be audio in which case you can listen to her on the toilet (or potty, or outside, or wherever) or video so you can visually supervise her from start to finish.
Video calls can be awkward if she holds the camera at the wrong angle so you can't see as she relieves herself. Remember the humiliation comes from exposing her private functions to you, so don't be scared to demand she stops and repositions the camera for you if you're not happy.
Video clips work well, as do pictures, but these can be sent at any time. If you require verification, have her write a word or phrase, either on herself on a piece of paper so it can be seen by you. Only give her the word a few minutes before her permitted time so she cannot cheat and write it in advance.
Remember to praise her for getting it right. You can be as sincere or condescending as you choose.
Extra humiliation in reporting can be achieved through inspections for hygiene. You can thoroughly embarrass the most shameless of subs by having her show you the crotch of her underwear and explain in detail any stains or marks, especially if they're recent and wet. A haughty girl will be reduced to a cringing mess if you pick her up for leaving white stains of arousal, or yellow stains from urine dribbles, in her pants.
Tissues can be used to line the crotch of panties as a tell tale for leaks, while the texture is a constant humiliating reminder. If she is nervous about staining underwear she likes you can have her buy cheap disposable panties.
Any urination (leaks or full loss of control) into underwear is normally obvious from the location of the wet patch, which will begin from the lower front and spread downwards along the outer lips before wicking upwards and outwards. Unlike wetness from arousal, urine will soak the fabric through completely.
Remember that for a girl with long labia, her underwear will tend to work its way between her lips and she will stain them whether or not she was aroused. Over time, some level of staining or bleaching is inevitable.
Nappies or diapers are outside the scope of this writing, but they can be checked visually. Some have wetness indicators.
4. Timings
You control not only when your submissive uses the toilet but precisely how long for. This is referred to as a window. For example, you might give her a window of +/- 3 minutes from each of her permitted times in which she may use the toilet.
The length of the window can be adjusted to provide extra stress and embarrassment for your submissive. You might give her one minute exactly if you want strict obedience, or +/- 3 minutes if you know she will be (e.g.) out with family at that time. Remember you want to keep the windows achievable.
A submissive woman will take about 25-35 seconds from the start of a steady urine flow to empty a full bladder. You should allow a minimum of one minute to allow for flow start, stop, wiping and adjusting clothes.
I usually set a rule that her underwear may not be pulled down until the start of her permitted time. A variation is that her bottom may not touch the seat or receptacle until her time begins, though some cunning girls may use this as an excuse to hover.
2 minutes is enough of a limit to keep her mindful without being difficult, providing she can be at the toilet punctually. A submissive with irl commitments will need longer windows of 5-10 minutes.
A short window combined with video call supervision can be very effective at reinforcing your control over your submissive as discussed above.
An alternative method is when your submissive may have a high intensity job or family situation which makes a fixed toilet schedule impossible. In this situation you can give her a maximum number of times she may go during a certain time period. For example, she might be allowed three toilet uses between 8am and 4pm. You can combine this with a window that starts from when she leaves her desk or enters the bathroom.
5. Intake of drinks
A submissive woman's normal response to a toilet schedule is to minimise the amount she drinks so she has less to piss out. You will need to be alert to this and counter it immediately with an enforced drinking schedule if it arises.
Otherwise you run the risk of her intentionally dehydrating herself to minimise her embarrassment at complying with your rules. This is unhealthy and must be avoided.
A scheduled drink forming part of a full day schedule should consist of no more than 500ml consumed in no less than 10 minutes, spaced several hours apart. Her daily fluid intake should be a minimum of 2 litres.
It is best in my experience to set rules saying "you must drink 2 cups of (whatever) before 2pm". Be alert to her trying to down the drink in one go as that does not promote proper hydration.
Other measures
There are advanced measures that may be seen as part of watersports play rather than toilet use control. One of these is control of stopping and starting the urine flow. It takes a lot of training, practice and confidence for a submissive to be able to stop and start peeing on demand, especially if she is desperate to empty her bladder.
But it is a powerful method of dominance, especially if you stop her before she is empty and tell her to wipe and pull up her underwear before she feels that she's finished relieving herself.
It can also be a very shaming and powerful moment for a sub who, when ordered to stop, is unable to control her bladder and keeps on peeing before her dominant. Be mindful of the emotions involved and be sure to talk to and reassure your sub if this happens. Fear is not a helpful emotion in intense bladder control training. It depends on pure trust and positive reinforcement.
You can also take away her toilet privileges and make her pee in a container. As a humiliation exercise she might have to get a child's potty and sit on that to do her business. If you are in person, place the potty in the middle of the living room, next to the front door or a window and strip away her privacy during permitted pee times.
You may give her a bucket or bowl for use during specified times, for example overnight. You can also send her outside at certain times. If she has a garden or alleyway this can work well.
If you are female and want to discuss this more, or try it out, I would be happy to hear from you. I am equally happy to receive questions from anyone in the replies.
Bathroom use control can be a very effective way of disciplining an errant submissive by forcing her to submit to a schedule you impose on her. The simple need to pee means she will never be able to put it off forever so she has to confront it whether she wants to or not.
Losing control of such a basic bodily function reinforces her position as somebody who does not deserve the same level of control over her actions as others.
Toilet use control is mostly an exercise in humiliation. It is most effective when the submissive feels embarrassed or ashamed of having to follow the schedule or perform related activities. Praising her for obedience can also positively reinforce her submission to you.
Building on those, the good dominant or disciplinarian using toilet restriction has a number of tools at his fingertips:
- Frequency
- Scheduling
- Reporting methods
- Timings
- Intake of drinks
Frequency of permitted toilet use must be realistic and achievable by the submissive. The good dominant finds out how often his sub normally uses the toilet and reduces it from there.
Most women carrying out a small to average amount of exercise will want to pee between 4 and 6 times a day. 5 is a good starting point to reduce from. A very physically active girl (sports, ballet, etc) will pee more often than that.
Be very aware of timings. 95% of people want to pee as soon as they get up in the morning and extended morning holds will often not be possible unless your intention is to produce a deliberate wetting or moment of disobedience. Let her pee early on under controlled conditions and then you have her in a known state for the morning.
Allowing three or fewer toilet visits in a day will mean your sub will use the toilet without permission, wet herself or spend the day unable to concentrate on anything other than her bladder while becomig dehydrated.
Think carefully about the effect you want to achieve before putting her on 3 or fewer. An unavoidable wetting may make her lose respect for you because she thinks she's seen through your illusion of false choice. Avoid this situation.
2. Scheduling
A schedule with fixed times for toilet use is the least intensive for you as the disciplinarian to monitor. Picking the times is a matter of experience but there are some guidelines that will help.
A properly hydrated submissive woman who drinks half a litre / a pint of water within 5 minutes can comfortably hold her bladder for 30-40 minutes. She will have between 10 and 20 minutes beyond that where holding is increasingly uncomfortable. In the following 15 minutes she will begin repeatedly begging for permission to go and risks losing control there.
The point of a disciplinary toilet schedule is to set the submissive a difficult but not impossible target to meet. Toilet uses should therefore be no more than 4.5 hours apart.
If your schedule includes set amounts to drink at fixed times, you will need to space drinking and toilet times apart. There is little to be gained from making her pee straight after a drink, and refilling her bladder directly after she has emptied it tends to make her want to pee very quickly. About 20 minutes is a good space of time between these two activities.
3a. Reporting methods - in person
Supervision in person does not need much explanation but I will briefly cover it for completeness.
You may have your sub report to you when she has been to pee, or you may supervise more closely. Reporting to you can be as simple as her saying "I have been to pee at my assigned time, Sir" or by her asking for permission to go.
Remember the schedule if you have her ask permission in advance. It is fun, and sometimes necessary, to make her wait, but avoid the scenario where a pre-determined schedule falls apart at your whims.
Personal supervision is a suitable form of humiliation for a sub who may have been caught masturbating without permission or whose demeanour means she cannot be trusted when alone with her knickers down.
You may choose to take her to the toilet (or potty, shower, garden etc) and supervise in person. She will find this very humiliating, and for the first few times she may be unable to pee at all unless you turn your back. Even then she might only be able to let a trickle go rather than fully emptying her bladder. In this scenario you may want to balance the strict disciplinary measure with some pragmatic thinking.
Training her to be able to pee in front of you is really a separate topic, but you can be sure that her desperation will eventually overcome her shyness. Be aware that a new or inexperienced submissive will need enforced drinking rules if you supervise in person because she will want to minimise her humiliation by not drinking, and thus not needing to pee.
3b. Reporting methods - remote
Remotely monitoring a submissive's toilet use requires trust and honesty.
The easiest monitoring method is for her to call you whenever she is permitted to go, or needs to ask you for permission to go. This could be audio in which case you can listen to her on the toilet (or potty, or outside, or wherever) or video so you can visually supervise her from start to finish.
Video calls can be awkward if she holds the camera at the wrong angle so you can't see as she relieves herself. Remember the humiliation comes from exposing her private functions to you, so don't be scared to demand she stops and repositions the camera for you if you're not happy.
Video clips work well, as do pictures, but these can be sent at any time. If you require verification, have her write a word or phrase, either on herself on a piece of paper so it can be seen by you. Only give her the word a few minutes before her permitted time so she cannot cheat and write it in advance.
Remember to praise her for getting it right. You can be as sincere or condescending as you choose.
Extra humiliation in reporting can be achieved through inspections for hygiene. You can thoroughly embarrass the most shameless of subs by having her show you the crotch of her underwear and explain in detail any stains or marks, especially if they're recent and wet. A haughty girl will be reduced to a cringing mess if you pick her up for leaving white stains of arousal, or yellow stains from urine dribbles, in her pants.
Tissues can be used to line the crotch of panties as a tell tale for leaks, while the texture is a constant humiliating reminder. If she is nervous about staining underwear she likes you can have her buy cheap disposable panties.
Any urination (leaks or full loss of control) into underwear is normally obvious from the location of the wet patch, which will begin from the lower front and spread downwards along the outer lips before wicking upwards and outwards. Unlike wetness from arousal, urine will soak the fabric through completely.
Remember that for a girl with long labia, her underwear will tend to work its way between her lips and she will stain them whether or not she was aroused. Over time, some level of staining or bleaching is inevitable.
Nappies or diapers are outside the scope of this writing, but they can be checked visually. Some have wetness indicators.
4. Timings
You control not only when your submissive uses the toilet but precisely how long for. This is referred to as a window. For example, you might give her a window of +/- 3 minutes from each of her permitted times in which she may use the toilet.
The length of the window can be adjusted to provide extra stress and embarrassment for your submissive. You might give her one minute exactly if you want strict obedience, or +/- 3 minutes if you know she will be (e.g.) out with family at that time. Remember you want to keep the windows achievable.
A submissive woman will take about 25-35 seconds from the start of a steady urine flow to empty a full bladder. You should allow a minimum of one minute to allow for flow start, stop, wiping and adjusting clothes.
I usually set a rule that her underwear may not be pulled down until the start of her permitted time. A variation is that her bottom may not touch the seat or receptacle until her time begins, though some cunning girls may use this as an excuse to hover.
2 minutes is enough of a limit to keep her mindful without being difficult, providing she can be at the toilet punctually. A submissive with irl commitments will need longer windows of 5-10 minutes.
A short window combined with video call supervision can be very effective at reinforcing your control over your submissive as discussed above.
An alternative method is when your submissive may have a high intensity job or family situation which makes a fixed toilet schedule impossible. In this situation you can give her a maximum number of times she may go during a certain time period. For example, she might be allowed three toilet uses between 8am and 4pm. You can combine this with a window that starts from when she leaves her desk or enters the bathroom.
5. Intake of drinks
A submissive woman's normal response to a toilet schedule is to minimise the amount she drinks so she has less to piss out. You will need to be alert to this and counter it immediately with an enforced drinking schedule if it arises.
Otherwise you run the risk of her intentionally dehydrating herself to minimise her embarrassment at complying with your rules. This is unhealthy and must be avoided.
A scheduled drink forming part of a full day schedule should consist of no more than 500ml consumed in no less than 10 minutes, spaced several hours apart. Her daily fluid intake should be a minimum of 2 litres.
It is best in my experience to set rules saying "you must drink 2 cups of (whatever) before 2pm". Be alert to her trying to down the drink in one go as that does not promote proper hydration.
Other measures
There are advanced measures that may be seen as part of watersports play rather than toilet use control. One of these is control of stopping and starting the urine flow. It takes a lot of training, practice and confidence for a submissive to be able to stop and start peeing on demand, especially if she is desperate to empty her bladder.
But it is a powerful method of dominance, especially if you stop her before she is empty and tell her to wipe and pull up her underwear before she feels that she's finished relieving herself.
It can also be a very shaming and powerful moment for a sub who, when ordered to stop, is unable to control her bladder and keeps on peeing before her dominant. Be mindful of the emotions involved and be sure to talk to and reassure your sub if this happens. Fear is not a helpful emotion in intense bladder control training. It depends on pure trust and positive reinforcement.
You can also take away her toilet privileges and make her pee in a container. As a humiliation exercise she might have to get a child's potty and sit on that to do her business. If you are in person, place the potty in the middle of the living room, next to the front door or a window and strip away her privacy during permitted pee times.
You may give her a bucket or bowl for use during specified times, for example overnight. You can also send her outside at certain times. If she has a garden or alleyway this can work well.
If you are female and want to discuss this more, or try it out, I would be happy to hear from you. I am equally happy to receive questions from anyone in the replies.
