I know exactly what you mean—it happens to me quite often. You want to meet up, you text back and forth a lot, often for weeks, you set a date to meet, and then suddenly you don’t hear from them anymore. Some of them get in touch again a few days after the planned meeting with some excuse. You agree to meet up again, and the same thing happens all over again.
What upsets me so much is that I can’t understand why the other person doesn’t just clearly say that they’re not interested in meeting up at all, or that they’re not—or no longer—interested in me as a person. Instead, they let you believe it’s real.
The worst was the guy I met at that hotel a few months ago—he took so much time with me. We talked both before we met and after we had sex, and then he just ghosted me. He put so much effort into it, and it was all for nothing.
It happens also quite often when my Dom and I are looking for someone together: people message us saying they’re coming, and then, just before it’s time, we don’t hear from them anymore, or they even delete the conversation… It’s really strange.
And yeah, I just don’t get it, so if anyone ever figures out why this happens, I’d love to hear about it.
