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This or That: Kink Edition

Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Both together ideally, but one or the other handcuffs... I like to be made helpless
Dominating or Submitting?
Submitting
Biting or Spanking?
Eek, spanking! I definitely prefer thuddy pain to sharp, despite my tack bras
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Leather cuffs are so much kinder to my skin but a good rope hogtie, crotchrope, cupcake tie on my tits or rope harness... Um...?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Silent teasing, I struggle so much with dirty talk, it just becomes a parody
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Oo, slow and sensual...
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Overstimulation like 500 edges a day?? 🥵🔥😰
Watching or Being watched?
Watching, but really neither
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Neck, but be gentle, don't choke me
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Um... Both... but with some of my darker fetishes, roleplay lets us go further safely... 🫣
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Tied 🥰
Orgasm control or Edging?
I'm a victim to both and I just want to cum!!! 🥵😭
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Both are hot but I wanna get fucked, take me somewhere private
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
I guess temperature because I'm not really into breath play, despite my Dolcett thing...😳
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Praise kink all the way 🥰 I'm very much a people pleaser and I want to be told I'm a good slut
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Soft. Take me and love me and make me feel cherished
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Lingerie, feels nice on my skin and makes me hot knowing it's teasing my partner
Morning play or Late-night play?
Late night. I'm not a morning person 🫩
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Both, I love the sensation of different toys
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
Mmm, I definitely want to take the time for my partner to truly make me theirs and enjoy all the build up, different sensations and savour the experience
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling
or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play
or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved
or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
restrain me
Dominating or Submitting?
definitely submissive
Biting or Spanking?
spank me hard
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
tie me up
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
make me wonder what you will do to me next
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
make me earn it
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
make me be under your control
Watching or Being watched?
I’ll perform for you
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
hard
Roleplay or Dress-up?
with no clothes
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
do whatever you want with me
Orgasm control or Edging?
I’ll be under your control
Public teasing or Private seduction?
always at your service
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
yes please
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
I don’t need praise
Soft dom or Hard dom?
you can be hard on me
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
naked always
Morning play or Late-night play?
always serving
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
I prefer real touch
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
make me earn it
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up? neither
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? Cuffs
Dominating or Submitting? Both
Biting or Spanking? Spanking
Rope play or Leather cuffs? Cuffs
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? Silent teasing
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? Start slow, finish rough
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Overstimulation
Watching or Being watched? Both
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Hair pulling
Roleplay or Dress-up? Roleplay
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Hmmm being tied
Orgasm control or Edging? Control
Public teasing or Private seduction? Private
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Temperature
Praise kink or Degradation kink? Dedgradation
Soft dom or Hard dom? Hard
Lingerie or Naked immediately? Naked
Morning play or Late-night play? Late night
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Toys
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon marathon
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved
or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
I like both things, but if I can only choose one of them: Handcuffs


Dominating or Submitting?
I'm a switch; I like being dominant and submissive almost equally. I even really enjoy being submissive to one person while being dominant to another person...


Biting or Spanking?
Spanking, without a doubt.


Rope play or Leather cuffs?
As a bondage enthusiast, I prefer Rope Play. Even if I use handcuffs, I prefer metal ones.


Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
I like both, and alternating between them, but if I had to choose one: Dirty talk


Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Slow teasing, without a doubt.


Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Sensory deprivation, It's something I love, in both roles.

Watching or Being watched?
Watching, without a doubt.


Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Here, depending on the role I'm in, I enjoy one thing more than another:
As dominant: Neck grabbing.
As a submissive: Hair pulling.



Roleplay or Dress-up?
Roleplay, without a doubt.


Being tied up or Doing the tying?
As a switch, I like both things, but if I could only choose one, I enjoy being the one who ties up the slave or submissive much more.


Orgasm control or Edging?
Orgasm control, without a doubt.


Public teasing or Private seduction?
Private seduction, without a doubt.


Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
I enjoy temperature games much more and they turn me on much more, in both roles.


Praise kink or Degradation kink?
A bit of both. There are times when you have to criticize and others when you have to praise. I can't choose here, as it depends on the moment and the situation.


Soft dom or Hard dom?
Hard dom. There are no more words.


Lingerie or Naked immediately?
It depends on the moment. I have a huge fetish for men's underwear, so if by lingerie we mean that, I choose it without hesitation. However, there are other times when immediate nudity is also important, necessary, and turns me on a lot.


Morning play or Late-night play?
Late-night play. As a general rule, I am much more active at night.


Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
There's a time for everything, but I have a lot of toys, and if I have so many, it's for a reason. Toys can be a lot of fun, never a truer word spoken.


Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
I have no doubt, I'll take the marathon. In both roles.
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Blindfolds


Dominating or Submitting?
Sub


Biting or Spanking?
Umm, none, but I guess spanking


Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Rope play


Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Silent teasing


Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Slow teasing


Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Sensory deprivation

Watching or Being watched?
Being watched


Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
umm neck grabbing


Roleplay or Dress-up?
Roleplay, maybe


Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Being tied up


Orgasm control or Edging?
Orgasm control


Public teasing or Private seduction?
Umm, idk public teasing, maybe


Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
No clue, but possibly temperature play


Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Degradation kink


Soft dom or Hard dom?
Hard dom


Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Naked immediately


Morning play or Late-night play?
Late-night play.


Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Just hands/mouth


Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
Slow
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? handcuffs for sure Its so hot when someone is spanking me and i cant cover because im in bondage

Dominating or Submitting? submitting is more my style for sure even if sometimes im in the mood to top

Biting or Spanking? SPANNNNKIIINNNGGG EVERY DAY

Rope play or Leather cuffs? I think rope it is kinda soothing in a way

Dirty talk or Silent teasing? silent teasing all day

Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? slow teasing all day... make me needy

Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? overstimulation make it hurt please!

Watching or Being watched? ehhh both are fun really couldnt decide but mmm maybe watching

Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? I think hair pulling

Roleplay or Dress-up? roleplay soo much

Being tied up or Doing the tying? being tied for sure

Orgasm control or Edging? ehhh both? if the edging can be done through spanking, edging

Public teasing or Private seduction? public teasing amkes it exxtra embarrasing i love it

Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? temperature play i LOVE ice

Praise kink or Degradation kink? praise 100% im not super much into degradation

Soft dom or Hard dom? soft dome with a sadistic side please and thank you

Lingerie or Naked immediately? i like lingerie

Morning play or Late-night play? both? ehhh i hate having to choose.. i guesssss night so i can sleep sore and cozy

Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? toys always toys i love toys

Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? ill always choose the extended version
 
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Blindfolds or Handcuffs
Dominating or Submitting
Biting or Spanking
Rope play
or Leather cuffs
Dirty talk or Silent teasing
Slow teasing
or Fast, rough action
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation
Watching or Being watched
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing
Roleplay
or Dress-up
Being tied up or Doing the tying
Orgasm control or Edging
Public teasing or Private seduction
Breath play
or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)
Praise kink or Degradation kink
Soft dom or Hard dom
Lingerie
or Naked immediately
Morning play or Late-night play
Toys involved
or Just hands/mouth
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? I do like to be able to peek at what is going on. But I’ll take a going over while blindfolded also.
Dominating or Submitting? PM me what to do.
Biting or Spanking? I just can’t say no. Or stop.
Rope play or Leather cuffs? Close one here, but I’ll go with the leather.
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? Tell me why I deserve it and make me know it’s my comeuppance.
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? I’ll take both, but go fast and rough in a pinch
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Make me beg for stopping and more at the same time.
Watching or Being watched? Can’t help but admit I’m a voyeur. But the other is exciting too
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Make me feel it.
Roleplay or Dress-up? Don’t see why they are mutually exclusive, but role play it the goal.
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging? Keep me on edge and desperate.
Public teasing or Private seduction? This could go either way also, but let’s be public for a bit
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Wax and ice.
Praise kink or Degradation kink? I think I need some of this. Send me a PM with some and see what happens.
Soft dom or Hard dom? I don’t want to limit myself. Come hard.
Lingerie or Naked immediately? Keep it a slow burn before getting fast and rough.
Morning play or Late-night play? All the way to morning.
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Paddle, peg or clamps. Keep it interesting.
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? This time, I’m going to say slow, long and exhausting.
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? I like being able to watch, but not have control...so handcuffs
Dominating or Submitting? Definitely always submitting, I love the feeling of being made to feel small and worthless
Biting or Spanking? Spanking, the auditory component is compounding
Rope play or Leather cuffs? Maybe rope play, I could do either way, doms choice!
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? I love dirty talk, the nastier and meaner the better. It adds to the humiliation.
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? Slow teasing is fun the drag it out and make me want more. Best way to push my boundaries.
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Overstim
Watching or Being watched? I love both, but being watched is a super turn on.
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Hair pulling, seems more reasonable
Roleplay or Dress-up? I love dressing up like a little slut
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Tie me up please
Orgasm control or Edging? I love my inverted chastity cage... Control me please.
Public teasing or Private seduction? Public teasing sounds so fun and risky, let's go.
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Temperature
Praise kink or Degradation kink? I year to be put in my place and degraded
Soft dom or Hard dom? I like a mix, sometimes I need aftercare
Lingerie or Naked immediately? Lingerie
Morning play or Late-night play? Late night play
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Toys make it more fun
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? Extended Marathon most of the time, but a quicky is nice too.
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting?
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched?
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying?
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction?
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play?
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs?
Dominating or Submitting? I really enjoy the power play back and forth the most
Biting or Spanking?
Rope play or Leather cuffs?
Dirty talk or Silent teasing?
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action?
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation?
Watching or Being watched? I really like both but if I had to choose
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing?
Roleplay or Dress-up?
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Both are so much fun.
Orgasm control or Edging?
Public teasing or Private seduction? Nothing like public humiliation to turn me on
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)?
Praise kink or Degradation kink?
Soft dom or Hard dom?
Lingerie or Naked immediately?
Morning play or Late-night play? Though honestly I like afternoon play the most. Not too groggy in the morning nor tired at night
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth?
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon?
 
Blindfolds or Handcuffs? Handcuffs
Dominating or Submitting? Submitting
Biting or Spanking? Spanking
Rope play or Leather cuffs? Rope play
Dirty talk or Silent teasing? Dirty talk
Slow teasing or Fast, rough action? Slow teasing
Sensory deprivation (blindfold/earplugs) or Overstimulation? Overstimulation
Watching or Being watched? Being watched
Hair pulling or Neck grabbing? Neck grabbing
Roleplay or Dress-up? Roleplay
Being tied up or Doing the tying? Being tied up
Orgasm control or Edging? Edging
Public teasing or Private seduction? Public
Breath play or Temperature play (ice, wax, etc.)? Temperature
Praise kink or Degradation kink? No preference
Soft dom or Hard dom? Soft Domme
Lingerie or Naked immediately? Naked
Morning play or Late-night play? Anytime
Toys involved or Just hands/mouth? Toys
Quick, rough session or Slow, extended foreplay marathon? slow extended
 
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