I was having a long video call with a friend I hadn’t seen in a while two nights ago and the topic of getdare came up. Enthusiastically I wanted to show her the site only to be greeted by…
Well, I’m sure you’ve seen it…
Now, the fact that it took me four months to notice the shutdown will tell you that I haven’t used it a lot in recent times, though that had less to do with the site itself, upon which I was still looking quite fondly and more with (mostly positive) outside factors like my transition, finally finding a lovely partner in real life, acquiring a much better friend network than I used to have, and doing more stuff on the Fediverse, including quite kinky things. Still getdare to me was always a shining example of the internet of the olden days, before the mega-corporations replaced most of what was good with sites that are carefully crafted to cause addiction and brain-damage…
As a result of seeing this I started searching for an explanation and quickly ran into Butterfly’s post informing me that there wasn’t really one. To say that I was devastated would be a gross overstatement, but it certainly didn’t help my already not to great mental health. (I basically got a confirmation today that the symptoms I have are consistent with a mild to medium depression.) For some people gd may have been primarily a place for relatively active play, with old threads serving basically no purpose; I am not saying that these people are wrong, and I certainly used the site for that as well, though I found general dares that would be interesting for more than just a handful of recipients to be the most interesting and exciting thing. Over the years in which I used the page I wrote several rather complex dares that I posted to the general dares section and which may now be lost forever (I might want to go and have a look at archive.org… though it won’t be fun to go through all of them).
I also had quite a few DMs, though thankfully I have at least a partial backup of those, since I at some point started running out of space for them and had to delete them on gd, which I only did after downloading at least some of them.
Still, when I saw Butterfly’s post I quickly recognized her account, remember her as someone with whom I had not necessarily interacted with a lot, but who I associated with kindness; I quickly so a few other names I recognized and concluded that at least some of the community had found a new home. And it was that point when I recognized that I wanted to be part of that.
So, some of you might recognize me, even though I didn’t immediately find the avatar I used previously (a drawing of Teresa from the amazing manga series “Claymore”) and just picked a kinda similar substitute (a cropped still of the anime), at least I hope so.
That said, I probably won’t be very active here, but I can already see the improvements over gd and love the design. And who knows, maybe I’ll go back to posting completely unhinged overly complex dares one day, as I used to do on a regular basis in the olden days!
Well, I’m sure you’ve seen it…
Now, the fact that it took me four months to notice the shutdown will tell you that I haven’t used it a lot in recent times, though that had less to do with the site itself, upon which I was still looking quite fondly and more with (mostly positive) outside factors like my transition, finally finding a lovely partner in real life, acquiring a much better friend network than I used to have, and doing more stuff on the Fediverse, including quite kinky things. Still getdare to me was always a shining example of the internet of the olden days, before the mega-corporations replaced most of what was good with sites that are carefully crafted to cause addiction and brain-damage…
As a result of seeing this I started searching for an explanation and quickly ran into Butterfly’s post informing me that there wasn’t really one. To say that I was devastated would be a gross overstatement, but it certainly didn’t help my already not to great mental health. (I basically got a confirmation today that the symptoms I have are consistent with a mild to medium depression.) For some people gd may have been primarily a place for relatively active play, with old threads serving basically no purpose; I am not saying that these people are wrong, and I certainly used the site for that as well, though I found general dares that would be interesting for more than just a handful of recipients to be the most interesting and exciting thing. Over the years in which I used the page I wrote several rather complex dares that I posted to the general dares section and which may now be lost forever (I might want to go and have a look at archive.org… though it won’t be fun to go through all of them).
I also had quite a few DMs, though thankfully I have at least a partial backup of those, since I at some point started running out of space for them and had to delete them on gd, which I only did after downloading at least some of them.
Still, when I saw Butterfly’s post I quickly recognized her account, remember her as someone with whom I had not necessarily interacted with a lot, but who I associated with kindness; I quickly so a few other names I recognized and concluded that at least some of the community had found a new home. And it was that point when I recognized that I wanted to be part of that.
So, some of you might recognize me, even though I didn’t immediately find the avatar I used previously (a drawing of Teresa from the amazing manga series “Claymore”) and just picked a kinda similar substitute (a cropped still of the anime), at least I hope so.
That said, I probably won’t be very active here, but I can already see the improvements over gd and love the design. And who knows, maybe I’ll go back to posting completely unhinged overly complex dares one day, as I used to do on a regular basis in the olden days!
