What is one piece of advice you wish you could give to your 16 year old self?
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Overdue advice
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This isn't kinky at all but I would want my 16 year old self to know that I deserve to be happy and that nobody else is going to do that for me. I have to be the one to take the steps to make myself happy.
Don't worry so much what other people think of you. Also don't worry about trying to fit in and conform.. It's okay to be different!
Stop smoking tobacco you idiot, it’s expensive and pointless
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Honestly, any other advice I could give is just too complicated, and past-me would likely not come to the understanding I have now.
Honestly, any other advice I could give is just too complicated, and past-me would likely not come to the understanding I have now.
That’s the best advice I’ve seen yet, my 16 year old self would have seriously wondered what the hell Bitcoin was though, I was still 3 years away from my first experience of seeing the internet.
I would tell myself that I need to focus on what makes me happy and comfortable. Trying to please everyone else at the expense of myself will only tear me apart and leave me feeling hollow and empty. That it is ok who I am because I am awesome and there are spectacular people who will see that and be happy to know the real me.
But the cigarettes will miss you ):
The first and foremost advice would probably be, that im good the way i am. Even if im sometimes too much.
That my kinks, although they are for other weird, that that doesnt make me a mentally sick person but just someone who knows what i like, what my body needs and where i belong.
That i dont have to explain myself for each and every action that i do, to anyone, but rather that i could either learn from them and grow or just realise myself what i could do better.
That id rather have no friends at all, than people around me who cant respect me and the way i am. As someone who is quiet a lot, people usually think that im scared. But the thing is that i just try to calm myself down not to say something stupid or inappropriate. And thats okay.
We are good just the way we are.
That my kinks, although they are for other weird, that that doesnt make me a mentally sick person but just someone who knows what i like, what my body needs and where i belong.
That i dont have to explain myself for each and every action that i do, to anyone, but rather that i could either learn from them and grow or just realise myself what i could do better.
That id rather have no friends at all, than people around me who cant respect me and the way i am. As someone who is quiet a lot, people usually think that im scared. But the thing is that i just try to calm myself down not to say something stupid or inappropriate. And thats okay.
We are good just the way we are.
Advice to my 15-year-old self - "Always check first. That way, on what you think is a sunny Wednesday afternoon in the school holidays, when you're home alone and preparing for your very first outdoor experience, running naked with a hard-on from your parents' back door to the end of the garden and back, believing that all adults will be out at work, won't end up with you locking eyes with the bemused next-door neighbour as she does her ironing in the window that overlooks your garden. She's a school teacher. It's the school holidays. She's off, just the same as you are."
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Do some damn stretches and get fit before the chronic pain kicked in a few years later (End of 2014). Maybe if i had learnt to deal with my hypermobiltiy by doing strengthening/stabilising work, it may have helped save a lot of issues, also if you wind up with chronic pain, dont use a particular one that i was on the max dose of which turned me into a zombie and caused a lot of weight gain, which caused various other health issues to kick in. There are more meaningful things i could say that would help me mentally but yeah, probably the thing which would have been the most useful. Also hey your German teacher may be an idiot, but its probably a useful language to learn 
(having wound up with 2 german partners lol)
Doesn't help anyone else really, but damn, could have saved me a hell of a lot of pain
(having wound up with 2 german partners lol)Doesn't help anyone else really, but damn, could have saved me a hell of a lot of pain
Also not a kinky one but I would tell my 16 year old self that one day in 2024 you will develop psorasis. Just go to the dermatologist because a male PCP will gaslight you and you’ll end up with a rare bacterial infection requiring a 2 week course of antibiotics. Just save myself a lot of confusion, pain and second guessing.