Note about gendered threads

[Butterfly]

Please note that any gender specific threads are still to be, in spirit, inclusive.

For anybody who identifies as gender fluid, trans, non-binary etc., you are still very much welcome to participate. Please pick whichever "side" you are most comfortable with or amend the rules to fit your specific situation.

We do not tolerate discrimination of any kind.

If you have other suggestions on how to improve the language in these types of threads to be more inclusive, please let me know below.

Edit to add: Due to some controversial comments etc. I have decided to edit my main thread to include the highlights and to delete the rest of this thread at this time. I will post some thoughts and quote any of the helpful information that I thought would be beneficial from the comments, but will be locking this thread from any further information

Some thoughts:
* When participating in a thread, choose the side that feels most comfortable for you. If none of the sides feel comfortable, feel free to create another thread that better suites your situation!
* When creating a thread, you are allowed to have preferences. You can specify certain genitals, gender identities, etc. however, I will not tolerate harassment or abuse if somebody chooses to participate who may not fit into your category. If you do not want to "play" with somebody for any reason, you politely decline. Consent is important and you have the right to walk away, but do not have the right to hurt somebody else.
* People are never going to fit into categories neatly.
* Mods will not "police" or take on a "parent" role in these threads. We are all adults and should be able to act respectfully to each other. If there are disagreements, deal with it privately or agree to disagree and walk way.

Plucky has a valid point that in some cases exclusivity is warranted, some tasks are genital specific and would require adaption, also peoples preferences to one or the other is not inherently bad. However the way I have always viewed the world is that I should do the most possible good while causing the least possible harm. This is because nothing is perfect and every benefit to someone is a detriment to another. So when it comes to this topic I am wholly on the Butterfly side that we should be as inclusive as possible, I would argue that it being more difficult to ind a cisgeder female post in an inclusive thread does less harm than excluding trans people and non binary people. At the end of the day even if it was exclusive to cis women only, finding a suitable play partner may still require the same search (all be it shorter)

I feel as though if something is to be made exclusive it should be easy to justify the reasons that is a benefit and why it does more good than harm, if that cant be justified then it should be inclusive. While there are many that desire exclusivity from a genuine place and are not aiming to do harm it is all to easy for that to be used to justify the next segregation of exclusivity.

But the point my mind keeps running back to is that being inclusive of all in no way forces anyone to play/set tasks for anyone included, that is still a personal choice we each get to make on where and when we post. But by being exclusive we are forcing people out of a thread. If I am to be forced out of one I would like to know it is for good reason. Unfortunately this is an imperfect world and humans are imperfect creatures and no matter how we do it, it will never be perfect. But we can always do better and I would like to think we can and will.

My intent in this post was that for the games that are being played between genders be as inclusive as possible. I agree that people are allowed to have their own desires. If you only want to fuck men with brown hair, that is totally ok! So in your personal threads where you are giving out tasks or looking for a play partner, please spell out who you want to play with. However, when we are playing games in the forum, all I ask is that you be mindful of all kinksters and be as inclusive as possible. If you use the language "boys" or "girls" then just know that I expect people to choose the category that they fit into best. Same with "sub v dom". I identify as a switch. So in that case, I would choose whichever fits me best and I will participate and will not expect to be berated because of it.

How important for the actual thread is it if they have a penis or vagina? If the actual penis / vagina etc. is needed to solve the issue: yes, you are right.

But if it is just that a male can allow person x to pee/cum/whatever, i think in the year 2026 it should be okay that nb/pre-op trans people pick the gender they feel they are. TBH i dont think there is much real difference for everyone involved on this point it is a small forums game and such games should do their best to make every person as comfortable as they can.

I mean this could a male perspective: i know catfish exist and probably 10-20% of the girls i interact with are not who they claim to be, so for me, i have myself save from a girl with a penis 10 times more than from a dishonest ingenuine person like a catfish and the ruling above basically puts catfishing more on the table, that nb person feel the need to fully go undercover instead of celebrating them who they are.