What is one thing that is non-negotiable in a scene, relationship, dynamic, partner, etc.?
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Non-negotiable
- Thread starter Butterfly
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Anything that involves non-consenting people even seeing stuff. I'm even iffy about tasks that are like "get permission from X amount of people to do Y" on a kinky forum or chat, because like, why am I now involved in your play? I didn't ask for that, I just came here to vibe.
I'll fantasize about public humiliation, talk about it, meme about it, but I'll never actually do it. Even beyond the fact that it's my social life at risk, that's someone else's boundary I'd be violating, and that's not right.
I'll fantasize about public humiliation, talk about it, meme about it, but I'll never actually do it. Even beyond the fact that it's my social life at risk, that's someone else's boundary I'd be violating, and that's not right.
Trust, if I don't trust you we will not be able to have any form of relationship, even informal play. If you cannot trust the other person, it would be foolish to engage on any play with them.
Also, hygiene. Following a bad experience with a partner in the past, I will not accept poor personal hygiene and hygiene standards. Soap and water are inexpensive and easy to use. Just go and have a shower.
Also, hygiene. Following a bad experience with a partner in the past, I will not accept poor personal hygiene and hygiene standards. Soap and water are inexpensive and easy to use. Just go and have a shower.
- Joined
- Apr 28, 2025
- Gender
- NB
- Pride
Progress
Been struggling with this one for a bit. I was going to say honesty, communication, trust, safety. Then I realized those are all things we do play with and personally for me all of them are subject for negotiation.
From personal experience I know the one thing that sets kink apart from something unhealthy is willing participation.
I am saying that because I think consent is a sufficient condition, but feel there may be a slightly weaker form that is still enough but I have no idea what that might be and until I do I stick with it.
So in a nutshell: Consent.
From personal experience I know the one thing that sets kink apart from something unhealthy is willing participation.
I am saying that because I think consent is a sufficient condition, but feel there may be a slightly weaker form that is still enough but I have no idea what that might be and until I do I stick with it.
So in a nutshell: Consent.
Orgasms for me! I am not good with denial (although denying others is fine hahaha). Although what is earlier mentioned definitely also, consent, communication, trust & safety.
I absolutely will not play with somebody who is not single or ENM. I don't play with cheaters.
Long toenails
I also will not play with somebody who is not over the age of 20. I know that legal age is 18 but anybody who claims to be 18 scares me to be honest. I have had too many minors try to engage.
snoek
Odly fish like pigeon. (Little miss funny fuck)
Open communication, without any harmful lies... That's the one most important thing for me
- Joined
- Jan 4, 2026
- Gender
- Female
- Pride
Asexual
It's kind of redundant, but I have to like the person romantically. I can't do casual stuff. 