Men, what is one thing you wish Woman knew?

[Butterfly]

This thread is for the men, those who identify as males or owners of male parts ...

What is something that you wish woman knew about you, your experiences, your parts, what it is like living in a male body, what it is like going through life as a man .... tell us!

 

[Butterfly]

I am obviously not a man, but a man recently told me that men like compliments too. And it something that has stuck with me.

 

[MessyAshy]

Clear unambiguous communication is soooooo important. Not only are men generally worse at picking up subtle hints (In either direction, mind you. A subtle hint that you want them to go away is equally hard to read than a subtle hint you're into them). But we also learn completely different emotional boundaries. The intimacy women have in some regular friendships is a lot deeper than in male friendships, and men can easily associate that level of intimacy with a romantic relationship. Furthermore, men often don't even learn how to voice those things, so they may need a lot of help and careful guidance when discussing them.

There are two kinds of stories that you can find all over the internet.

1: "I told him no and he left me alone, but i wanted him to keep trying!"
2: "I told him no and he just keeps trying, i want him to leave me alone!"

So say what you mean, and say it clearly, or people suffer.

 

[Beline]

You know how nice it feels to be the little spoon? To have your head rubbed, gentle contact, play with your hair? Do that for guys too! Just casual physical affectionate active contact, not sexually motivated. I'm almost put to sleep with a partner rubbing my head/hair or gently stroking my arm/side whilst we relax on the sofa together. It's so calming. We love it too! Even if it goes against the "image" cast by society.

I feel like guys rarely receive it though, much less unsolicited from partners.

 

[CarnalSensuality]

A single compliment, spoken in a heartfelt tone, can stick with a man for decades. (if he can receive them...) That's how rare they (can be) in social and professional life. This seems to be spoken about more often now.
Example: As a boy, a man I didn't know at one of our community fairs acknowledged my achievement (a Cub Scout badge). That was about 45 years ago, and outside of my grandfather, was the only explicit acceptance I felt I got while growing up.

As with many actions, being little spoon can feel very good - some of us have qualifiers, like: at the right time/space/environment, with someone you trust, ... Otherwise it can feel odd, be impossible to relax into, or, in extreme situations, be triggering and highly negative

 

[daringrandom]

this seems silly to post, butt:
Testicles hang at uneven heights so they don't damage each other when you're running or sitting

 

[Buttaholic]

I am obviously not a man, but a man recently told me that men like compliments too. And it something that has stuck with me.

Yes, we do!

We get the normal apparel admiration like “Nice perfume!” Or “Nice shoes/shirt/watch!”, but it is not so often that we get a compliment to a feature or a trait.

The bitter-sweet part is, because compliments are scarce to us, this way we are almost forced to cherish them, hold on to the thought, save the feeling for later and smile silly in public when we remember them; or at least I know I do.

 

[ntni11]

I do think be very clear in communication is one that I would urge.

You honestly cannot fathom my inability to take hints (in a positive way mostly I mean). For example I had a GF a number of years ago now who told me she was dropping hints for a month before she just flat out told me she was into me. She said she started subtle but by the end was making it very obvious. I can tell you that I picked up on absolutely none of them lol

So yeah, if you have something to say generally just say it cos hints probably aren't going to get the job done.

 

[groen]

When you go shopping with a guy. Could be your father, brother, son, friend, boyfriend whatever.
If he puts on a pair of pants and tells you they are to small. But you are sure they are not it probably is code for my balls are getting crushed or are at least uncomfortable so if we buy this I will never wear it.
Yes I might have been in this situation more than once with a few of the categories listed above

Ending with at least 3 perfectly fine pants still in my closet that my step mother bought for me since she thought it was about the money. There was no way I was going to be rude and even less chance I was going to spell it out.

As for shopping in general
There is very much a reason my one sister is my favorite person to shop with and one is if I say no for whatever reason she doesn't push any further for me to buy it. She has great taste and is just brutally honest in how stuff looks and is a safe female perspective so I don't look like a . And when I am fed up with shoping or at least shoping for myself she gets that.

For reference obviously this is just my experience others might feel different.

 

[SensoryOverlord]

So yeah, if you have something to say generally just say it cos hints probably aren't going to get the job done

This, SO MUCH!

I look back on my life and keep finding old situations where I was so completely clueless about what that other person was after…hindsight is 20/20, but definitely not at the time… if hints took years for me to ever recognize , then it was obviously not working (and still won’t, lol)

 

[ewitch]

Men need to be in the right head space too for sex. There often seems to be the expectation that men can always perform.