Lonely

[BearBehavingBadly]

Do you ever feel lonely?
Is it something that happens almost regularly or is there something that triggers it?
Does the radio help you not feel lonely?
Is there anything else you can do when you are feeling lonely to help?

 

[CarnalSensuality]

TL;DR: Yes, triggers, who's radio? Apparently!

1. Yeah, I've had a lifetime of having trouble finding friends - let alone partners, let alone kinksters/playmates. So loneliness has been a pretty regular repeat in my life, more obvious when I go to work in a new city.

2. Triggers - over the years it has been anything from seeing other groups laughing, hearing music from past loves, being my only person at a Con, or even seeing a personal ad which sounds wonderful - up until they say I'm too old.

3. Radio? Who is this "radio"?

4. Sometimes distractions: old music I love, video games, a lighter book or graphic novel, or go sleep.. I think the only Real Help is to cry it out (that's pretty rare), or to reconnect with an actual, good friend (possibly more rare for me).
EXCEPT that joining this site, then getting some immediate positive feedback put the loneliness back to sleep for most of a day! So thanks for that @Butterfly and @WildCallie !

 

[Butterfly]

Do you ever feel lonely?
Is it something that happens almost regularly or is there something that triggers it?
Does the radio help you not feel lonely?
Is there anything else you can do when you are feeling lonely to help?

I do. Considering I have multiple partner, run community groups, have some good friends and am almost always doing something social, I am surprisingly lonely. I struggle to feel seen.
I think for me it's a craving of something deeper. More than surface level. I want connection. I want to feel seen, heard and wanted.
It is something that happens a lot to be honest.
I rarely listen to the radio but having the tv or a podcast on in the background can help sometimes.
Honestly, nothing really. I know that isn't what you want to hear.

4. Sometimes distractions: old music I love, video games, a lighter book or graphic novel, or go sleep.. I think the only Real Help is to cry it out (that's pretty rare), or to reconnect with an actual, good friend (possibly more rare for me).
EXCEPT that joining this site, then getting some immediate positive feedback put the loneliness back to sleep for most of a day! So thanks for that @Butterfly and @WildCallie !

Awwww, I am so glad you were made to feel welcome and less loneley

 

[CarnalSensuality]

I do. ... I am surprisingly lonely. I struggle to feel seen.
I think for me it's a craving of something deeper. More than surface level. I want connection. I want to feel seen, heard and wanted.
It is something that happens a lot to be honest.

_hugs_
"I struggle to feel seen" is a common thought - but even saying that out loud is another form of vulnerability, which can be accepted or rejected.

I accept that part of You, Butterfly, and I'd be curious to learn more - as appropriate.

I know my own version of what You've said. One example: one relationship started strong, almost spontaneously for me as a Dom with deep hints of connection and feeding each others' needs and desires. But after sharing weekly sessions for a couple months it became obvious that she was no longer seeing me as more than a kink/sex dispenser - I'd driver her over, she'd relax into her non-normal-life space, and then she'd just go at it, the same approach every time - wouldn't even ask what I felt like doing, let alone if I wanted to do the same thing yet again this week. It was disheartening, noticing that there was a gulf between us, and did NOT engage my Dom-self/energy or even my libido. We needed to renegotiate the relationship at that point. I could be a service Top if we nixed the kissing and assumption of there being romance when there wasn't much of a connection at all.