Breathplay has been a theme that I have been drawn to in porn for quiet a while. I get so wet when I am watching somebody gasp for air through a gas mask, or with a bag on their head. My clit tingles when a bound woman is dunked underwater.
As much as the thought of it has turned me on, and led me to many edges and orgasms, breathplay is a kink that has always resided outside of my risk profile.
So many things could go wrong, despite any safeguards that you put in place. Obviously death is the worst risk. However, there are less fatal risks as well: blood clots, damage to ligaments, bruising, brain trauma due to lack of oxygen or blood. Those are risks that I just haven't been willing to take on, as a top or as a bottom.
But ... it's freaking hot! Control is my biggest kink and turn on. Literally having my life, my ability to breathe in the hands of somebody else .... whooo that is a power trip!
Most of my kink play is online. That means that truly I am the one in control. With this in mind, my partner and I discussed little ways that we could incorporate controlling my breath into our play. We discussed the risks and decided that there were a few ways we could play where the risk was rather small. If he ordered me to hold my breath during play for example, I could just breathe when needed (or if worse came to worse and I passed out, my body would make me breathe). This was a great thought but I had a hard time holding my breath while edging and moaning. So we purchased some nose plugs. I would put a nose plug on while he controlled my vibrator. This made it so much easier to hold my breath. He would count down from 3, and then I would need to take a deep breath and hold it. He would make me hold it for 5-20 seconds usually. Sometimes there would be a minute or two between when I had to hold my breath, and other times it was one after another.
This worked really well for us, it turned me on so so so so much! and the risk profile was comfortable for both of us.
When we were in person together recently, we added one extra step ... his hand. I would keep the nose plug on and he would cover my mouth with his hand whenever he wanted. I held a squeaky toy in my hand so that if I felt like it was too much, I could squeak it and he would remove his hand. This time he didn't count down at all before he covered my mouth. This really elevated the play, but still kept the risk low enough that we were comfortable. Of course there was a lot of trust placed in his hands (pun intended).
This is one of my favorite types of play that we have done together and it is a massive turn on. However, I don't think I am comfortable with it going much further than it already has. I am very happy with where we are at right now. We can continue to explore and have fun by adding this to other types of play.
Disclaimer: There are risks with all types of play. Make sure to do your own research and education before engaging in any type of play. While there are ways to mitigate those risks, mistakes can always happen. Be aware of the risks and play accordingly.
As much as the thought of it has turned me on, and led me to many edges and orgasms, breathplay is a kink that has always resided outside of my risk profile.
So many things could go wrong, despite any safeguards that you put in place. Obviously death is the worst risk. However, there are less fatal risks as well: blood clots, damage to ligaments, bruising, brain trauma due to lack of oxygen or blood. Those are risks that I just haven't been willing to take on, as a top or as a bottom.
But ... it's freaking hot! Control is my biggest kink and turn on. Literally having my life, my ability to breathe in the hands of somebody else .... whooo that is a power trip!
Most of my kink play is online. That means that truly I am the one in control. With this in mind, my partner and I discussed little ways that we could incorporate controlling my breath into our play. We discussed the risks and decided that there were a few ways we could play where the risk was rather small. If he ordered me to hold my breath during play for example, I could just breathe when needed (or if worse came to worse and I passed out, my body would make me breathe). This was a great thought but I had a hard time holding my breath while edging and moaning. So we purchased some nose plugs. I would put a nose plug on while he controlled my vibrator. This made it so much easier to hold my breath. He would count down from 3, and then I would need to take a deep breath and hold it. He would make me hold it for 5-20 seconds usually. Sometimes there would be a minute or two between when I had to hold my breath, and other times it was one after another.
This worked really well for us, it turned me on so so so so much! and the risk profile was comfortable for both of us.
When we were in person together recently, we added one extra step ... his hand. I would keep the nose plug on and he would cover my mouth with his hand whenever he wanted. I held a squeaky toy in my hand so that if I felt like it was too much, I could squeak it and he would remove his hand. This time he didn't count down at all before he covered my mouth. This really elevated the play, but still kept the risk low enough that we were comfortable. Of course there was a lot of trust placed in his hands (pun intended).
This is one of my favorite types of play that we have done together and it is a massive turn on. However, I don't think I am comfortable with it going much further than it already has. I am very happy with where we are at right now. We can continue to explore and have fun by adding this to other types of play.
Disclaimer: There are risks with all types of play. Make sure to do your own research and education before engaging in any type of play. While there are ways to mitigate those risks, mistakes can always happen. Be aware of the risks and play accordingly.