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I'm almost ready to move on

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Since he wanted me to be available again over the weekend, I posted an ad, but he hasn’t been online since yesterday evening. And as usual, he hasn’t said a word about it. So not much has happened in the last few days, except for the guy I got in touch with through another platform.

I had planned to break up with him, and I still intend to, but I keep thinking, “Yeah, later…” or “tomorrow…” or “or…”

And somehow I want to tell him what a terrible Dom he is, but on the other hand, I also know it won’t accomplish anything.

It’s going to be weird not having anyone anymore. It’s so damn hard to find someone in real life who’s serious about you, who accepts you just as you are.

I know I’m not everyone’s cup of tea, and that’s okay—I don’t want just anyone, either.

I just want a partner with whom I can share my life and my kink.

We’ll see how things go from here, if and who I end up finding.
 
I think this is a tricky but important time for you. You give so much and you deserve to get back much better, I know this isn’t easy and transitioning out of a dynamic even an unhealthy one (sometimes especially an unhealthy one) can be so hard. I’ve followed your blogs but not commented much as I never wanted to add pressure - but you are worth a dom that pushes you AND cares and protects you.
It can be scary going at it alone for a bit while you find something but I think youll seen quickly once you’re free that you deserved more time, care and protection whilst still exploring kinks/ boundaries and feeling pushed.

Dynamics are not one sided the subs give their submission and the Doms give their guidance and protection (there is overlap either way but predominantly it falls this way)

I am very tired so I hope this makes sense and doesn’t cross any lines - we’re all here for you and we will support you and I think you will find a Dom that treats you better once you can get yourself away from this guy.
*headpats and cookies*
 
I'm proud of you (if it means anything)
Things may feel a bit weird and difficult initially but we're all here, and we'll help - come and join in chat sometime if you're up to it and we'll keep you company and offer fun mischief and gradually you'll find someone who you can share in kink and be pushed and protected and respected <3
 
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