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Anonymous (307d)
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I have been chatting with somebody and I really like them. I think they might like me too, but I am really bad at being able to tell when people are flirting. I have been wrong before.
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Anonymous (a708)
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Reading signals can be very tricky, especially when feelings are involved. It is great that you are enjoying the connection, though.
If you feel comfortable, you could try gently steering the conversation in a more flirty or personal direction and see how they respond.
Or, if you are feeling brave enough, just be honest and say something like: "I really enjoy talking to you and I sometimes wonder if you might feel the same... do you?"
It doesn't have to be dramatic, just real. Worst case, you get clarity... best case, you are both on the same page.
Good luck!
If you feel comfortable, you could try gently steering the conversation in a more flirty or personal direction and see how they respond.
Or, if you are feeling brave enough, just be honest and say something like: "I really enjoy talking to you and I sometimes wonder if you might feel the same... do you?"
It doesn't have to be dramatic, just real. Worst case, you get clarity... best case, you are both on the same page.
Good luck!
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Anonymous (29aa)
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Yeah, i would say just be open about it. Show respect for the relationship as it's been thus far, but name your feelings, openly and honestly. Maybe also name the specific things that you suspect could be flirting, if nothing else, it could give you more insight into how they communicate, and strengthen whatever the relationship is, friends or otherwise.
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Anonymous (c47b)
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A little tricky as I’m not sure if you mean real life, online, this site etc. but agree with others above, don’t let it linger, that other person may have similar thoughts and start to think you’re not interested. Don’t get caught in the friendzone if you want more. Either just blurt it out and know one way or the other or if it’s within this site, maybe you could slip some clues into your post that only they would pick up on. If it’s D/s it’s actually a little easier, you could ask quite casually if they’re interested in having a Dom/sub at the moment, if they say yes or maybe, you can just reply “good to know 
”, that really should be enough to steer the conversation where you want it to go. Good luck, I hope it works out how you want.
”, that really should be enough to steer the conversation where you want it to go. Good luck, I hope it works out how you want.
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Anonymous (307d)
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It is somebody online currentlyA little tricky as I’m not sure if you mean real life, online, this site etc. but agree with others above, don’t let it linger, that other person may have similar thoughts and start to think you’re not interested. Don’t get caught in the friendzone if you want more. Either just blurt it out and know one way or the other or if it’s within this site, maybe you could slip some clues into your post that only they would pick up on. If it’s D/s it’s actually a little easier, you could ask quite casually if they’re interested in having a Dom/sub at the moment, if they say yes or maybe, you can just reply “good to know
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Anonymous (c47b)
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Well then, I gave you some good clues
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Anonymous (5b6b)
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We want people we like to like us back, so we interpret what they say in that way. However, when you look at what they say and imagine those words from someone you're not interested in, it can give you some perspective. If I didn't like this person, would I take what they're saying as flirtations?
But if they say something you think is flirting, you can always call them out: Are you flirting with me
But if they say something you think is flirting, you can always call them out: Are you flirting with me