Humiliation kink and the girls who crave it

I have no particular idea where this will go, it's simply my thoughts and ramblings on the subject. Please feel free to comment, add your own thoughts and ideas.

Jumping straight into the meat of the matter, why is this a kink at all? Why do some girls love being humiliated, degraded and insulted and why do some of us enjoy subjecting them to it? It's weird because this came to me after many years of bdsm and bondage kink, it wasn't something I used to enjoy. I actual used to find it slightly disturbing and a bit distasteful, but somewhere along the way I suddenly realised I was enjoying it.

I think it was something I absorbed somehow, I had quite a few masochistic subs who really loved it and begged me to embarrass, humiliate and degrade them during our play sessions. I could see the very really want in their eyes, they clearly craved it deeply. So deeply they were actually disappointed if I skipped it.

And to complicate things I actually really love chubby, chunky, big, fleshy, meaty girls. Big boobs, big butts, chunky thighs, cellulite, stretchmarks are all a plus for me. So calling someone a fat, flabby piggy isn't actually an insult, it's what I want. Confused yet? I sure am.

Most, if not all really loved body writing too. Graphically embellishing their curvy flesh with nasty words to express their desires, and this turns me on so much. I see the fiery look in their eyes, they get so horny it's insane, the merest touch can make them cum. Why?

Why indeed.

But then why do we like anything, chocolate, watching the sunrise, the smell of freshly cut grass? We are complicated animals...

 

[Gothswitch]

I know what you mean. I'm a little diffident about engaging in verbal humiliation, as to me, they're all goddesses, regardless of whether they're on their knees for me, or vice versa. They're consenting playmates, and I'm forever grateful for their participation.

Perhaps it's because I'm not busting to hear from anyone else that I could do with shifting some of that Christmas weight -I'm quite well aware that January is a time for food discipline, and drawing attention to my love handles isn't high on my agenda.

 

[SilkAndSour]

I think it also primarily depends on who says those humiliating or degrading words to me.. if it would be some rando on the street, id probably take it very direct and flip out. But if my dom/Master would tell me "you are a whore meat" i would probably melt and crave for more.

Body writing, same thing - you cant see it always, but you know its there and it makes you feel special, especially mentally.

 

[saltychip]

I think it also primarily depends on who says those humiliating or degrading words to me.. if it would be some rando on the street, id probably take it very direct and flip out. But if my dom/Master would tell me "you are a whore meat" i would probably melt and crave for more.

Body writing, same thing - you cant see it always, but you know its there and it makes you feel special, especially mentally.

I get what you're saying. I used to be so confused about it too, between what would make me melt and what would turn me off. It very much comes down to who is saying it and how I look at them. There's some people who can say whore to me and I laugh at them, but coming from my dom? My brain melts into my panties and I can no longer function. I think there's a right way to use humiliation and has everything to do with who is using it and what your relationship is to them.

 

[nastyfkr]

They're consenting playmates, and I'm forever grateful for their participation.

This is such a good point, I feel just the same. I have immense respect for all the subs I play with which is where the mental conflict I have comes from I guess. And now I think that being able to put humiliation into the context of play sessions is the key. As both @saltychip and @SilkAndSour mention it totally changes the meaning and effect of the words.

 

[saltychip]

This is such a good point, I feel just the same. I have immense respect for all the subs I play with which is where the mental conflict I have comes from I guess. And now I think that being able to put humiliation into the context of play sessions is the key. As both @saltychip and @SilkAndSour mention it totally changes the meaning and effect of the words.

Absolutely. @Butterfly actually wrote a blog about using derogatory words and how they can change meaning from who uses them. It's a good read if you haven't read it and gives a bit more insight to how a subs mind works in regards to the word. I personally can't be called certain words during play due to them being triggering from an abusive ex long ago, but from the right person, those words mean differently.