How to keep yourself from cheating or speeding up to "get to the fun part"?

[jayshmoe314]

I love being dominated but I sometimes find myself tempted to avoid things I may not feel like doing, bend rules, etc.. I know it ruins it for both me and the person I'm playing with, but it's difficult to have the self control sometimes and I love feeling like I have to do it even if I don't want to. Obviously not as much of an issue with an in person dynamic as the other can easily see what's happening and enforce it.

What are some strategies for online play?

Obviously photo or video verification come to mind. In the past I streamed on Chaturbate so the person I was playing with could monitor me. Do people have any other tips?

 

[KinkKitten]

You can set up a 'check in' system if youre comfortable with it.
It means at any point your dominant can say 'check in' and ask for a picture there and then so they know what you're up to.
The thing is they don't HAVE to. But the point is they COULD. And that'll keep you honest!

 

[jayshmoe314]

Love it! But what about rules like "don't do X"?

One of if not my biggest kink is bladder control, and obviously it's pretty easy to cheat that one once it gets to a point (like even letting just a little out to make it "easier" - wouldn't be hard to do quick and then send a pic after like nothing happened), and I like the idea of being "forced" (safewords notwithstanding) to go past that point.