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Curious about chastity

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Bareme

Bareme

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I’m curious but I don’t really understand the draw of chastity other than the obvious domination aspect. Whether you dom/domme or sub with chastity…

What is the thrill?

Which kind of device do you prefer (full, nub, flat, inverted, etc) and why?

If I were to sample chastity, how would one get started and how would I expect it to be used in my kink play?

Thanks, all.
 
What drew me to chastity is that I really like to feel my genitals being snug and having something prevent my cock from growing. I played a lot with diapers when I was younger, to find this feeling, and now I play mostly with chastity, and sometimes with a diaper.
 
As for sampling, I just have experience with the kink3D one, and I am lucky that I live near Montreal, which has a sex shop were you can try the different sizes to find the one that fits best (I need to go back to find something smaller, I can grow a bit in my current one, which is not ideal.) the size recommendation: snug like a hug.

To include it in your kink exploration, I'd suggest just wearing it, exploring have kinky chats and sexting sessions wearing it, which make you get teased a lot, maybe explore pleasure with something that vibrates (cumming while locked is something special). If you're into it, anal while locked is also quite fun.
 
For me the initial draw wasn't actually from a dom/sub aspect, it was a way to push my kinky side. I initially started exploring chastity as during solo play sessions I got way too horny, would end up cumming and then not be interested anymore. I would then be disappointed I didn't follow through or achieve what I wanted when I started the session. Chastity solved that for me.

I initially started with a plastic CB-6000 knock off and came with a few different ring sizes. It allowed me to explore chastity to see what I liked, did not like and the sizing that was right for me. It was not a great cage. I definitely could not wear it for long but allowed me to find a better one for me.

Now I have a smaller metal one which fits a lot better, but I would say it's still not perfect. Probably needs to be more sung.

Look into finding a cage that fits you. There are many measurement guides out there before purchasing, but you can really only find out by wearing. Don't expect to find it on the first try, you will probably have things you will like/don't like and everyone is different.

Then if you're like me, start including it in your kink exploration!
 
Thank you all, for the responses.

“Snug as a hug” sounds like great advice.

Add on question, how small (nub, flat, inverted) have you gone and what was it like?

Thanks again.
 
For me, the absolute mindfuck of being so horny but can’t do anything about it, just sit or start exploring, because everything seems like it could be fun or pleasurable when locked up.

I would say check out r/ChastityTraining, has a lot of advice and tips on how to size up, what to expect, what is normal discomfort and what is not, the list goes on.
 
Bareme said:
I’m curious but I don’t really understand the draw of chastity other than the obvious domination aspect. Whether you dom/domme or sub with chastity…

What is the thrill?

Which kind of device do you prefer (full, nub, flat, inverted, etc) and why?

If I were to sample chastity, how would one get started and how would I expect it to be used in my kink play?

Thanks, all.
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It has to be the control. You control someone's sex life or someone else controls yours.
 
Bareme said:
Thank you all, for the responses.

“Snug as a hug” sounds like great advice.

Add on question, how small (nub, flat, inverted) have you gone and what was it like?

Thanks agaiit depends what you wan
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It depends what you’re using it for. If its for short term “play” sessions the smaller the better in my opinion ha for long term wear its better to be slightly bigger but still small so you can function with your body's daily needs so to speak!
For a Sub its super inspiring to be locked in chastity, keeps you constantly aware and hypersensitive at all times. For me anyway!
 
I like chastity because it stimulates me physically and serves as a constant reminder of my denial... Which also stimulates me physically. And, I feel safe, cherished and delectable. Like a sweet treat being safely kept hidden for later.

I don't have the anatomy for it but if you do, get one with a sounding rod or piercing hole to keep it extra locked. I don't know if that actually feels better, I just like the idea of it personally. ♥
 
I haven't explored yet, but I'm getting more and more curious about a cage with a sounding tube, which, I imagine, would make the whole ordeal of going to pee a lot easier (I have a foreskin, and so far, I haven't managed to find a way to not make a mess when and after I've peed)
 
Owena said:
Well from a girl's point of view it sucks. At least I cant get really horny without any pussy play. And its no good, especially when a dom tries to push (soft) limits...
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Owena said:
Well from a girl's point of view it sucks. At least I cant get really horny without any pussy play. And its no good, especially when a dom tries to push (soft) limits...
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If it sucks then it's doing it's job properly. It's not supposed to let you get horny.😈😈
 
When the cage is locked on, my nipples become so sensitive, that even the slightest touch sends a feeling through me that I cant experience any other way. It's an intense feeling helplessness. Becoming so desperate to cum, but being unable to. My nipples become an instant way to feel desperate and the cage prevents relief. I want this feeling forever without the chance of relief.
 
Not sure anymore what got me into it but by now I have a huge collection of different cages. It took a while to find out for myself that I prefer them as small as possible - even inverted. By now the cages I use most are inverted with a peehole insert as that seems to keep everything in place the best.

As to the reasons... I just love the feeling - the soft, permanent pressure, the light discomfort it causes so you can live with it perfectly fine but never fully ignore it... also the humiliating look of an inverted cage - as it looks like there's no penis at all...

And I love being horny more than cumming which for sure is a big factor in developing a chastity fetish.

I got most of my cages from aliexpress since it is a good way to try new things without going into debt and I'd say with 95% of the cages I receive, the quality is surprisingly good.

My starter tipp: Make sure the cage is at least a little bit smaller(!) than your flaccid penis since that stops it from growing at all. Allowing it to grow even a little bit causes a lot more discomfort than a cage that keeps it from growing at all.
 
Qetesh said:
Not sure anymore what got me into it but by now I have a huge collection of different cages. It took a while to find out for myself that I prefer them as small as possible - even inverted. By now the cages I use most are inverted with a peehole insert as that seems to keep everything in place the best.

As to the reasons... I just love the feeling - the soft, permanent pressure, the light discomfort it causes so you can live with it perfectly fine but never fully ignore it... also the humiliating look of an inverted cage - as it looks like there's no penis at all...

And I love being horny more than cumming which for sure is a big factor in developing a chastity fetish.

I got most of my cages from aliexpress since it is a good way to try new things without going into debt and I'd say with 95% of the cages I receive, the quality is surprisingly good.

My starter tipp: Make sure the cage is at least a little bit smaller(!) than your flaccid penis since that stops it from growing at all. Allowing it to grow even a little bit causes a lot more discomfort than a cage that keeps it from growing at all.
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