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Curious about chastity

Bareme

Lover of games and proven actions
Joined
Jan 4, 2026
Gender
Male
I’m curious but I don’t really understand the draw of chastity other than the obvious domination aspect. Whether you dom/domme or sub with chastity…

What is the thrill?

Which kind of device do you prefer (full, nub, flat, inverted, etc) and why?

If I were to sample chastity, how would one get started and how would I expect it to be used in my kink play?

Thanks, all.
 
What drew me to chastity is that I really like to feel my genitals being snug and having something prevent my cock from growing. I played a lot with diapers when I was younger, to find this feeling, and now I play mostly with chastity, and sometimes with a diaper.
 
As for sampling, I just have experience with the kink3D one, and I am lucky that I live near Montreal, which has a sex shop were you can try the different sizes to find the one that fits best (I need to go back to find something smaller, I can grow a bit in my current one, which is not ideal.) the size recommendation: snug like a hug.

To include it in your kink exploration, I'd suggest just wearing it, exploring have kinky chats and sexting sessions wearing it, which make you get teased a lot, maybe explore pleasure with something that vibrates (cumming while locked is something special). If you're into it, anal while locked is also quite fun.
 
For me the initial draw wasn't actually from a dom/sub aspect, it was a way to push my kinky side. I initially started exploring chastity as during solo play sessions I got way too horny, would end up cumming and then not be interested anymore. I would then be disappointed I didn't follow through or achieve what I wanted when I started the session. Chastity solved that for me.

I initially started with a plastic CB-6000 knock off and came with a few different ring sizes. It allowed me to explore chastity to see what I liked, did not like and the sizing that was right for me. It was not a great cage. I definitely could not wear it for long but allowed me to find a better one for me.

Now I have a smaller metal one which fits a lot better, but I would say it's still not perfect. Probably needs to be more sung.

Look into finding a cage that fits you. There are many measurement guides out there before purchasing, but you can really only find out by wearing. Don't expect to find it on the first try, you will probably have things you will like/don't like and everyone is different.

Then if you're like me, start including it in your kink exploration!
 
Thank you all, for the responses.

“Snug as a hug” sounds like great advice.

Add on question, how small (nub, flat, inverted) have you gone and what was it like?

Thanks again.
 
For me, the absolute mindfuck of being so horny but can’t do anything about it, just sit or start exploring, because everything seems like it could be fun or pleasurable when locked up.

I would say check out r/ChastityTraining, has a lot of advice and tips on how to size up, what to expect, what is normal discomfort and what is not, the list goes on.
 
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