Like a lot of kinksters who enjoy control dynamics, one of my fantasies is Total Power Exchange. I love the idea of giving up that much control to a partner. In fact, one of my biggest fantasy's is a weekend where I am dropped off to the home of a Dom and I literally can't do anything without his permission. I would need to ask permission to put on clothes, to move, to eat, to talk, etc. It would be very much a strict TPE situation, including free use.
However, I don't think true TPE is really feasible long term or in every day life.
Instead, when I am in a D/s dynamic with a partner, I like to give them "blanket" control. Ideally this means that we have a few rules that I follow daily. But then as long as it is not something listed in my limits, then I am open to my Dom giving me orders, tasks or instructions about anything. Of course this is subject to being reasonable and everything can still be negotiated and talked about.
I like being given instructions randomly when I wake up or during the day. Things like:
* Hold your breathe until I tell you you can breathe
* You cannot use your right hand to drink at all today
* You must eat one thing of each color of the rainbow today
* Wear something red today
* Record a tally of how many times your name is said today (and then that corresponds to how many edges I need to do at the end of the day)
* Take a silly selfie
For me this is where the fun comes from: the anticipation of not knowing what my Dom will come up with, the creativity and the ability to try many different forms of control.
However, I don't think true TPE is really feasible long term or in every day life.
Instead, when I am in a D/s dynamic with a partner, I like to give them "blanket" control. Ideally this means that we have a few rules that I follow daily. But then as long as it is not something listed in my limits, then I am open to my Dom giving me orders, tasks or instructions about anything. Of course this is subject to being reasonable and everything can still be negotiated and talked about.
I like being given instructions randomly when I wake up or during the day. Things like:
* Hold your breathe until I tell you you can breathe
* You cannot use your right hand to drink at all today
* You must eat one thing of each color of the rainbow today
* Wear something red today
* Record a tally of how many times your name is said today (and then that corresponds to how many edges I need to do at the end of the day)
* Take a silly selfie
For me this is where the fun comes from: the anticipation of not knowing what my Dom will come up with, the creativity and the ability to try many different forms of control.
