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"Blanket" Control (or my version of TPE)

Like a lot of kinksters who enjoy control dynamics, one of my fantasies is Total Power Exchange. I love the idea of giving up that much control to a partner. In fact, one of my biggest fantasy's is a weekend where I am dropped off to the home of a Dom and I literally can't do anything without his permission. I would need to ask permission to put on clothes, to move, to eat, to talk, etc. It would be very much a strict TPE situation, including free use.

However, I don't think true TPE is really feasible long term or in every day life.

Instead, when I am in a D/s dynamic with a partner, I like to give them "blanket" control. Ideally this means that we have a few rules that I follow daily. But then as long as it is not something listed in my limits, then I am open to my Dom giving me orders, tasks or instructions about anything. Of course this is subject to being reasonable and everything can still be negotiated and talked about.

I like being given instructions randomly when I wake up or during the day. Things like:
* Hold your breathe until I tell you you can breathe
* You cannot use your right hand to drink at all today
* You must eat one thing of each color of the rainbow today
* Wear something red today
* Record a tally of how many times your name is said today (and then that corresponds to how many edges I need to do at the end of the day)
* Take a silly selfie

For me this is where the fun comes from: the anticipation of not knowing what my Dom will come up with, the creativity and the ability to try many different forms of control.
 
Yeah TPE is fun in short sessions but I don't think its very doable permanently either.
Its fun to to get random tasks like that too. Especially when they are creative AND a little silly.
 
Is that really what some people consider TPE? To me it sounds just like a regular D/s dynamic. Then again I think in kink, terminology is not always precise.
Other than that I agree with you! "Random", self-contained tasks that keep it interesting, and for me in particular, thinking on my feet. The trick really lies in finding a balance between creating a stressful situation with overwhelming / potentially unattainable tasks, and something too mundane. It is a recipe I keep myself engaged in my hobbies as well :)
 
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