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Unique Safewords

I prefer the traffic light system because it's more or less universally understood, and it's more nuanced than just one word to stop all activity. If i gotta pick a unique one, mine is easteregg.
 
I prefer the traffic light system because it's more or less universally understood, and it's more nuanced than just one word to stop all activity. If i gotta pick a unique one, mine is easteregg.
I usually end up defering to that as well.
Though I did really like using "pause" instead of yellow. That is what Marshall and Lily used when they needed a break from their arguments in How I Met Your Mother. So it fit really well.
 
I used to have a safeword of butternut. I find unique ones fun but traffic light ones win for me. I think as a lot of the time i just want to say I'm nearing a limit where i can say yellow rather than a unique one which basically is just stop right now
 
I once had a play partner who wanted me to snap my fingers, since I can't always speak when I am gagged and stuff like that.

Most of the time, however, I don't use a safeword because I never know what to use.

But I really liked it once during a spanking session where I was being punished for my misdeeds, when the safeword or phrase was “I'll abide by your rules.”
 
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