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- Jan 10, 2026
Okay, so I know that (at least on the old site), guys' posts could sometimes languish without a lot of replies. But I'm just going to ask anyone with an interest in teasing/denial/chastity to imagine themselves in my shoes and share their ideal fantasies. I've clearly hit the lottery and I'd love to benefit from everyone else's creative and devious minds.
For maybe a little too much context, I (male) am married with a toddler. I and my partner both work from home during the day with occasional breaks, the longest normally being a half-hour lunch. Maybe 1.5 years ago, I finally broached my chastity fantasy with my partner, who found it very intriguing. Since then, we've played in a variety of ways. Sometimes she'll keep me locked, sometimes we'll use a time safe, and a lot of the time we'll just play with teasing and denial without any physical cage. We've maxed out so far on about a month of denial. At one point, I came up with an idea to create a list of triggers for releasing me from chastity. The idea was that I would be locked up and the key would go in a time safe set to 24 hours with batteries taken out until the trigger was satisfied. A few options were her pegging me three days in a row, at least 24 hours apart, or one week, or going until she gives me a prostate orgasm, or going until I have a wet dream, or going for X days but only days when I gave her an orgasm counted.
A major component of our play is that my partner LOVES sex, and especially full penetrative sex. She'd probably be happy with vanilla sex forever, if it came to it. Thus, a big challenge with us playing with chastity/denial is how to make sure she's getting what she wants while I'm not getting what I want. Long-term, no-release locking doesn't seem to be a good fit for her preferences. She also loves when I cum, so she's honestly the weak link in denial play. It's more my fetish, so she's more inclined to say fuck it, you can cum while I'm more interested in seeing the denial through.
Lately, we've been playing with extended conditions for when I'm allowed to have my next full orgasm. Previously, in mid-November, we set a target of no full orgasms until the new year. We mutually slipped up and decided to break that at least once, but still managed a long period. Mostly, this consisted of a lot of penetrative sex where I just had to be in control and pull out at the very edge. I've never been very good at getting to a hard edge without falling over before, but I did pretty well here. It was occasionally frustrating when I would have to pull out mid-sex, but it kept me VERY focused over the long term. I felt bad about interrupting things for her, but she's said it's fun tormenting me even if it sometimes breaks her rhythm.
Our latest game was to roll two d20s to decide the starting value of two tracks. One is for hard edges for me, to be given by her outside of PIV sex. The second is for orgasms for her, however I give them. Every weekday where we satisfy at least one of those conditions, that track goes down by one (even if multiple edges/orgasms). Any weekday where we satisfy neither, BOTH tracks go up one. After about two weeks, we're about where we started on the tracks (around 10 on each). I don't get to have a real orgasm until both tracks are at zero. (We don't have a good answer for what happens if I don't manage to stop at the edge and have a ruined orgasm, so that could be a good starting point for ideas?)
I suppose I'm just curious what ideas others might have for interesting ideas or methods or scenarios for this kind of play. Anyone with a chastity or denial fetish who doesn't have an outlet who can spitball fantasies? I think pretty much anything is on the table if I can sell it, though I don't think she's into enormously complicated or intricate rules. I'm happy to answer questions about what might fly or what might not, what toys we have, etc.
With the limit (and benefit) that this is real life play, I'm very curious what the most creative, interesting ideas that people can come up with might be. My own goal is to get as uncontrollably horny as possible without being able to do anything about it. But open to any ideas!
For maybe a little too much context, I (male) am married with a toddler. I and my partner both work from home during the day with occasional breaks, the longest normally being a half-hour lunch. Maybe 1.5 years ago, I finally broached my chastity fantasy with my partner, who found it very intriguing. Since then, we've played in a variety of ways. Sometimes she'll keep me locked, sometimes we'll use a time safe, and a lot of the time we'll just play with teasing and denial without any physical cage. We've maxed out so far on about a month of denial. At one point, I came up with an idea to create a list of triggers for releasing me from chastity. The idea was that I would be locked up and the key would go in a time safe set to 24 hours with batteries taken out until the trigger was satisfied. A few options were her pegging me three days in a row, at least 24 hours apart, or one week, or going until she gives me a prostate orgasm, or going until I have a wet dream, or going for X days but only days when I gave her an orgasm counted.
A major component of our play is that my partner LOVES sex, and especially full penetrative sex. She'd probably be happy with vanilla sex forever, if it came to it. Thus, a big challenge with us playing with chastity/denial is how to make sure she's getting what she wants while I'm not getting what I want. Long-term, no-release locking doesn't seem to be a good fit for her preferences. She also loves when I cum, so she's honestly the weak link in denial play. It's more my fetish, so she's more inclined to say fuck it, you can cum while I'm more interested in seeing the denial through.
Lately, we've been playing with extended conditions for when I'm allowed to have my next full orgasm. Previously, in mid-November, we set a target of no full orgasms until the new year. We mutually slipped up and decided to break that at least once, but still managed a long period. Mostly, this consisted of a lot of penetrative sex where I just had to be in control and pull out at the very edge. I've never been very good at getting to a hard edge without falling over before, but I did pretty well here. It was occasionally frustrating when I would have to pull out mid-sex, but it kept me VERY focused over the long term. I felt bad about interrupting things for her, but she's said it's fun tormenting me even if it sometimes breaks her rhythm.
Our latest game was to roll two d20s to decide the starting value of two tracks. One is for hard edges for me, to be given by her outside of PIV sex. The second is for orgasms for her, however I give them. Every weekday where we satisfy at least one of those conditions, that track goes down by one (even if multiple edges/orgasms). Any weekday where we satisfy neither, BOTH tracks go up one. After about two weeks, we're about where we started on the tracks (around 10 on each). I don't get to have a real orgasm until both tracks are at zero. (We don't have a good answer for what happens if I don't manage to stop at the edge and have a ruined orgasm, so that could be a good starting point for ideas?)
I suppose I'm just curious what ideas others might have for interesting ideas or methods or scenarios for this kind of play. Anyone with a chastity or denial fetish who doesn't have an outlet who can spitball fantasies? I think pretty much anything is on the table if I can sell it, though I don't think she's into enormously complicated or intricate rules. I'm happy to answer questions about what might fly or what might not, what toys we have, etc.
With the limit (and benefit) that this is real life play, I'm very curious what the most creative, interesting ideas that people can come up with might be. My own goal is to get as uncontrollably horny as possible without being able to do anything about it. But open to any ideas!