Whether you are a casual kinkster or you live a kinky lifestyle, it is so important to remember that LIFE HAPPENS! Kink and sex should not be the most important thing ever. So many things take precedence: relationships, careers, mental health, family etc. However, it continues to be something that I see people fretting and stressing over around here ...
Threads
So many times I see threads started: add threads or request threads, that just get out of hand. Maybe the OP was only expecting a few posts or maybe the tasks given are much more extreme/extravagant than the OP expected. That can feel so overwhelming! It doesn't take much for something to get out of control.
While I can understand it being frustrating if somebody posts something asking for tasks, rules, etc. and then disappears or they don't follow through, sometimes that is necessary. LIFE HAPPENS! There is nothing holding you to the terms set in a thread. If you are overwhelmed, take a break. If a task turns out to be too much for you, amend it. If you receive more attention than you intended, put a limit or change the terms. LIFE HAPPENS!
Casual Play
When you start a casual play relationship with somebody, usually you negotiate terms together and then play. Sometimes your horny brain might be a bit more willing to agree to things than it would without the hormones racing through your body. Maybe you realize all of a sudden that the tasks given, or terms set just don't work for you. If you find yourself in over your head, take a step back, re-negotiate. I don't condone disappearing (ghosting) without communicating it to your play partner (casual or not), but if you need to take time away from playing, do it! LIFE HAPPENS!
Dynamics
Long term dynamics might come with more rules and stricter protocols. Sometimes you can get caught up in the fantasy of power exchange and kink. You might start something and realize later that it is a bit too overbearing for real life. Maybe the idea of long term denial is better than the reality, or the thought of having to wear a plug 5 times a week is hot, but in reality you just don't have the time.
Maybe your mom gets sick and you need to take a break so that you can focus on caring for her. Maybe you have a big college project coming up and the stress of that is causing you to feel overwhelmed with the rules you had set. Maybe you are just burnt out and want a break from your role in the dynamic. All of these are valid! LIFE HAPPENS!
Listen, this is supposed to be fun. Kink is the cherry on top of life. It is not the end all and be all. Your happiness and mental health matter. Communicate! Advocate for yourself! You are in control of what you do and nobody should get upset that you have to make choices that work for you. LIFE HAPPENS!
Threads
So many times I see threads started: add threads or request threads, that just get out of hand. Maybe the OP was only expecting a few posts or maybe the tasks given are much more extreme/extravagant than the OP expected. That can feel so overwhelming! It doesn't take much for something to get out of control.
While I can understand it being frustrating if somebody posts something asking for tasks, rules, etc. and then disappears or they don't follow through, sometimes that is necessary. LIFE HAPPENS! There is nothing holding you to the terms set in a thread. If you are overwhelmed, take a break. If a task turns out to be too much for you, amend it. If you receive more attention than you intended, put a limit or change the terms. LIFE HAPPENS!
Casual Play
When you start a casual play relationship with somebody, usually you negotiate terms together and then play. Sometimes your horny brain might be a bit more willing to agree to things than it would without the hormones racing through your body. Maybe you realize all of a sudden that the tasks given, or terms set just don't work for you. If you find yourself in over your head, take a step back, re-negotiate. I don't condone disappearing (ghosting) without communicating it to your play partner (casual or not), but if you need to take time away from playing, do it! LIFE HAPPENS!
Dynamics
Long term dynamics might come with more rules and stricter protocols. Sometimes you can get caught up in the fantasy of power exchange and kink. You might start something and realize later that it is a bit too overbearing for real life. Maybe the idea of long term denial is better than the reality, or the thought of having to wear a plug 5 times a week is hot, but in reality you just don't have the time.
Maybe your mom gets sick and you need to take a break so that you can focus on caring for her. Maybe you have a big college project coming up and the stress of that is causing you to feel overwhelmed with the rules you had set. Maybe you are just burnt out and want a break from your role in the dynamic. All of these are valid! LIFE HAPPENS!
Listen, this is supposed to be fun. Kink is the cherry on top of life. It is not the end all and be all. Your happiness and mental health matter. Communicate! Advocate for yourself! You are in control of what you do and nobody should get upset that you have to make choices that work for you. LIFE HAPPENS!