Kink with disabilities

[ExtraThicc]

I'm curious what experiences and tips others have involving kink play with disabilities (or a partner experiencing them).

Some thoughts I've had:

• While safety is always important, you have to be more careful with some health conditions.
• Nonverbal safewords like taps and ball drops aren't just useful when using gags, but also if someone has a disability like hearing loss or transient aphasia.
• Make sure any software or hardware with direct control over someone (including sex toys or locks) has a kill switch in case of technical issues.
• Consider how much information you're conveying with online communication. Video > audio > text generally, though media messages, tone indicators, and emoji can help a lot.

 

[ObsidanDusk]

The non verbal safeword one has always been a concern for me. When playing with someone where they are using gags or in a position where speaking might not be an option Butterfly and I decided to buy a small dog toy. The slightest squeeze of it make a loud annoying squeak. It makes me feel a lot better knowing even if my sub can't speak, is blindfolded and in a total predicament they can still voice any concern they have. One squeak and instantly check in with them see how they are doing.

 

[ExtraThicc]

Good idea. I've heard about balls being held, and dropped to safeword. I suppose that also has the advantage of acting as a dead man's switch, as it will deactivate if you're incapacitated (but not tonic).

 

[ObsidanDusk]

Good idea. I've heard about balls being held, and dropped to safeword. I suppose that also has the advantage of acting as a dead man's switch, as it will deactivate if you're incapacitated (but not tonic).

Yeah it's nice too because most squeaky toys including the one we use if you squish it you can hold it squished and when you let go of the squish it will make noise.

 

[Butterfly]

I have some physical limitations because of injuries and chronic pain. So this means that sometimes I require accommodations. I might not be able to be the sub kneeling in wait for her Dom, or when I am tied up, I might need to have more slack or even the ability to just not have one of my limbs tied. I think just being open and aware that real life isn't porn. Even the most healthy person may not have the abilities or stamina to implement a scene in the way you see it play out in porn.

I am also diabetic and I like to make sure my partners know what to do if I have a low during a scene. How to test my blood for me if something happens and I can't etc.

I just think it is just always a good thing to discuss medical conditions and physical limitations with new partners when you are starting to negotiate scenes.