Do you prefer scenes that are serious or more playful? Select an option in the poll and then tell us about it!
Do you prefer your scenes to feel playful, serious, or a mix? Why?
I prefer a mix, I find nothing pulls me away harder than needing to laugh and trying to stay serious for the sake of a scene. But on a deeper level than that, Kink to me in a lot of ways is about adding a little twist to exploring deeper emotional and pysical depth. I feel like if you are stuck to only playful and serious is called for you are unable to go there and vis veresa. But if I go in knowing right we are going to go where the emotions lead. Then I can not focus on what type of emotion I am supposed to have and just really get into the flow of the scene. If laughter comes up I laugh if not I dont, but I am not limited to a certain walled off area of emotion. I playful just never comes up in it, nothing is lost. But should it come up, I know I can be and I can go with the flow.
What changes when a scene shifts from fun and flirty to intense and emotional — and how do you handle that?
For me I would say that it dousent so much change, Sure the emotions have shifted to another area guiding the scene in another way, but change feels a bit I dont know... harsh as a disriptor. As though the scene stopped then began a different one and it just dousent feel like that, Ohhh I got it, it is more like a bend in a river. Things begin to turn and go in another direction but ultimatly it is the same river just heading for a new destination. And that is exactly how I handle it. You can fight a river... to an extent... And to me trying to force an emotional state in a scene feels much the same way. If I instead flow with the river of emotion and follow its lead (be that my or my scene partners emotion) we may wind up somewhere less planned but much more raw and a smoother journy there. (Hope that makes sense I went full on ramble there lol)
Which type of scene makes it easier or harder to drop into a submissive or dominant headspace?
Hounestly either can work, as long as it is natural. If emotions and emotional action is being forced.... I can feel it and it turns me off to it. I lose all intreast in continueing.
Have you ever started a scene one way (light, teasing) and had it evolve into something unexpectedly deep or heavy?
Yes, and not so uncommanly.
How do you signal (verbally or non-verbally) a desired mood before or during a scene?
To some extent that depends on the scene paartner. But for the most part emotions is one are of communication I am more in tune with genrally. Once I know someone well enough I am quite adept at noticing emotional state. But I have been wrong on times and do prefer to have things be clear. So before a scene by discussion. During that would be where it wouldd depend. We all have our signals verbal and non verbal and some are shared like the traffic lights, others not so much. I would go wih whatever is disccused to work easiest for both.
Does laughter during a scene break the mood… or enhance the intimacy?
Natural laughter, definatly enhances it. Laughter is such a powerful and raw emotion, I mean laughter comes from fun and happy emotions. But both of those can be experianced without any laughter, laughter requires a higher level of them. I laughter comes up, we are already exploring deeply fun emotions and that is a scene win (: but never would it break a scene (that said a dommy voice with laughter...... not easy lol)
How do your outfits, music, or setting influence the mood you’re trying to create?
They can certainly enhance it. But I would say they are only an aspect. With or without the mood can be created. Seeing something that fits the scene can make it easier to settle into as aphantasia robs me of an imagination in that way
Is it possible to feel completely “owned” or “in control” in a light, giggly scene?
Oh of course.
Sub answer: some one giggling at me in a scene very much makes me drop into subby space, it can sometimes provoke my brattyness depending on circumstance. For example if I was bound in the scene and scene and top/dom is aproching with a spanking impliment giggling..... well... I can already feel my heart skip a beat...
Dommy answer: again very much circumstance dependant, But when giggling because of somehing I plan... I feel total control. When however it is a giggle from a bratty sub missbehaving, Yes I very much feel in control, while it is a challenge to maintain a stance of control because of the laughter... I know I am going to win this little game they just started, I know it is only a matter of time before they fold and do what they are told..... and now they have just made the funest game EVER, solve the puzzle of which button is going to get that firey little brat to suddenly realise they are toast
(in a fun way of course, but brat 101 F around and find out
) and though apperance to the uninitiated may seem they are taking control... I know who really holds the reigns every time. All that giggleing at their missdeads just feels much sweater the secound they fold and the giggle is one of victory.
Do certain kinks naturally lend themselves more to one mood than the other? (e.g., spanking = playful? Degradation = serious?)
Not nececerily, each can be used differently to achive or elevate a certain mood.
How do you debrief or reflect differently after a lighthearted scene versus an emotionally intense one?
I think reflection on a scene is always different regardless of mood, so much can effect it. But I always try to follow what feels right. If it isn't I listen to what scene partner is saying. When relecting back on emotions the more powerful they are the more it can effect that, some emotions can be more difficault to naigate for some people than others.
