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I honestly don't know what my sexuality is

If you had asked me 5 years ago the answer would probably be "heterosexual". If you had asked me 10 years ago I would have answered this without a doubt.

All my life I have felt attracted to women only and the idea of doing anything romantic or sexual with a man turned me off.

In recent years my feelings have shifted and evolved. It first started with a - since fulfilled - fantasy of getting pegged by a woman. Which in turn was born out of my love of anal play. That fantasy evolved further to getting fucked by a man and giving a guy a blowjob. Both of these have since happened as well.
This all evolved further still by finding a guys dick to be very attractive. Seeing dick honestly turns me on now.

But despite all that I am still not attracted to a mans body beyond their dick (and shaved ass). I'm not even attracted to a guys feet, even though there's not really any difference from woman's feet which do turn me on a lot.

Also I still don't feel romantically attracted to guys in any way and I would not want do date a guy or kiss a guy. My attraction only revolves around their crotch area. I also am still sexually attracted to women more and above all I'm attracted to femininity. This is also an explanation why I do feel very much attracted to trans-women. If they still have a penis - sorry if this offends anyone - they are even more attractive to me and I think I would date a trans-women.

So now that I described it all I still don't know how to label it. I don't really like labels because unless you are 100% straight or gay (which I personally believe nobody truly is) it becomes confusing. I'm pretty sure I can't label myself as "bisexual" because of my very different feelings for the genders. "Heteroflexible" or "bicurious" both seem better (is there a difference?) but are still pretty vague. And the term "queer" seems just a placeholder for 'I don't know'.

My sexuality may still evolve as really I do believe it it fluid. At least it is for me.
 
I feel your confusion! This reads a lot like me a couple of years ago, partly confused, partly annoyed at labels and 100% envious at people who just "know" how they are and spout labels like the most natural thing there is!
I personally went from annoyed, to straight, to bisexual, to pansexual, to omnisexual, to fuck you and your label thinking (and there is a label for that too grrrr!), to just say anything that I could argue might be fitting and enjoy people getting confused.

You just be you and don't sweat the words some may use for it!
 
I definitely get it. I find it hard to understand what I'm attracted to as well but I definitely understand only being attracted to the penis and not what's attached to it. I feel that way to alot of times
 
Labels are so hard. I really feel like they are just a starting place. I still don't know what I would use to label my sexuality also.
 
Don't worry about a label, you are the Jaro that we know and love regardless of what gender or physical attributes you are attracted to and we will always support you 🫂❤️
 
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