How do I shake the icks?

[Anonymous (c775)]

I am talking with a new potential Dom and I really like him. However, he has a kink that just super icks me out. I have shared with him that I am not interested in that kink, but it still comes up in our discussions. He isn't pressuring me to engage in it at all, and I dont want to kink shame at all, it is just a turn off to talk about it. I don't want to offend, but just ick

 

[Anonymous (4c33)]

Sorry to hear about your situation! I know how it feels to meet someone that ticks many boxes, then presents with a deal breaker :/ Such a shame!
Not wanting to assume that is breaking the deal with you, if you want to continue getting to know this person, I suggest you tell them how you feel, and if they care enough about your relationship they listen.
I'd say something profound like "If they are not willing to accommodate you they're not worth it" but I know how hard it is to find a partner. If you can find it in yourself to do so, perhaps find a weaker form of the kink or roundabout ways to get used to it?

 

[Anonymous (2f26)]

I suggest you tell them how you feel, and if they care enough about your relationship they listen.

Exactly this. If this kink incompatibility is a minor issue for your potential Dom, then respecting your feelings on this should be no issue. If not, and it is an important kink for your Dom, then it is likely an issue that will sour your relationship in the long term and better to find out now.

 

[Anonymous (9534)]

Just out weird him. Find a kink he doesn't like and everything he talks about a kink your uncomfortable with go into extreme detail about a kink he doesn't like.