Tell us about your first time domming or subbing! What was it like? What did you do? Was it fun or awkward?
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First times
- Thread starter MessyAshy
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Wow, I tried to remember the very first time but cannot really say when it was. I have many memories of my early and very chaotic exploration but cannot say what the actual first time was, at this point I am not even sure which memories were made in the same session :/
I do remember lots of highlights though, and one which might just be the first time in submission is this: It started out as a game - it may have been truth or dare, spin the bottle, or something else with a similar dynamic. What I remember is that it gives someone the say over another and it was me who had to kiss another player's foot, or shoe, sock.. I only remember that they were all giggling at me having to do that. I thought what the hell, in for a penny - in for a pound! I got on my knees and gave her shoe the royal worshiping - licking, kissing, admiring! Cannot quite remember how our friends reacted, a mix of laughter, shock, and admiration. Not sure how long we kept playing for after that but eventually we got the gist that I enjoy those tasks way more than I should and they started just dishing them out. It wasn't really anything sexual, more like serving them stuff, being bossed around. I remember giving foot massages, too. There may have been some cuckolding too but I really cannot tell if it was the same evening. What really stuck with me is how I got on my knees and felt utterly affirmed in that position - my friends around me amused and me submitting to another one. With what I know now I say that was a form of sub space.
My first time domming is even harder to remember. One that stuck with me oddly started out with the same person involved. It was three of us and this one was more sex-oriented - I did not participate in the intercourse itself but I was in control of the actual partners. It probably stuck with me because of the bondage involved. Do not want to think about how poorly it was executed but it was great fun, combined with teasing and humiliation play. Made them say how much they loved it and what they liked us to do to them, so adorable! I also remember they freed themselves afterwards, yeah I definitely was a novice back then!
I do not want to give too many details for I absolutely do not want any of them to be recognized!
I do remember lots of highlights though, and one which might just be the first time in submission is this: It started out as a game - it may have been truth or dare, spin the bottle, or something else with a similar dynamic. What I remember is that it gives someone the say over another and it was me who had to kiss another player's foot, or shoe, sock.. I only remember that they were all giggling at me having to do that. I thought what the hell, in for a penny - in for a pound! I got on my knees and gave her shoe the royal worshiping - licking, kissing, admiring! Cannot quite remember how our friends reacted, a mix of laughter, shock, and admiration. Not sure how long we kept playing for after that but eventually we got the gist that I enjoy those tasks way more than I should and they started just dishing them out. It wasn't really anything sexual, more like serving them stuff, being bossed around. I remember giving foot massages, too. There may have been some cuckolding too but I really cannot tell if it was the same evening. What really stuck with me is how I got on my knees and felt utterly affirmed in that position - my friends around me amused and me submitting to another one. With what I know now I say that was a form of sub space.
My first time domming is even harder to remember. One that stuck with me oddly started out with the same person involved. It was three of us and this one was more sex-oriented - I did not participate in the intercourse itself but I was in control of the actual partners. It probably stuck with me because of the bondage involved. Do not want to think about how poorly it was executed but it was great fun, combined with teasing and humiliation play. Made them say how much they loved it and what they liked us to do to them, so adorable! I also remember they freed themselves afterwards, yeah I definitely was a novice back then!
I do not want to give too many details for I absolutely do not want any of them to be recognized!
First time subbing with someone else was actually with a pro-Domme. It was quite nervous before I went but it was actually pretty easy when I got there. She was good and I had a fun time. Still. my sub sessions with Miss Butterfly after have been a lot more fun indeed. The pro-Domme was clearly doing it for no other reason than money.
(much later I had another pro-Domme session with someone who seemed to be a lot more into it though)
(much later I had another pro-Domme session with someone who seemed to be a lot more into it though)
The first time that I Dom'd someone was online, and I haven't got a clue what happened as it was many years ago. However, the first time that I did it in person was at a kink club and it was very awkward and I didn't have a clue what to do. It still makes me cringe now, as it was all what should have been very basic stuff
My first time ever domming was actually with @Mr. Devious . We had planned to do one week of following my rules. To be honest, it went absolutely awful. Because he was my Dom, I was still in the mindframe of wanting to please him and there was so much pressure. I also think that the timeframe we agreed to was way too long for the first time. I ended up safewording on him and we stopped earlier than we had planned. This is when I first learned that switching with the same person was not for me.
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I got introduced to subbing by completing forfeits on video when I lost games online. Most were very short so I wouldn’t call them truly subbing (or Domming when I won).
I would say my first time subbing was when I lost a game though. I had been playing against a guy for about an hour. We both had been on camera and were naked. The last game we played, the loser was to submit to the winner on video chat for an hour. I lost.
I completed tasks on camera for that hour. Many edges, kneeling in a corner with my hands behind my back making me lose my erection and ooze pre-cum. Spanking, fingering, a little bit of ball smacking, and the most embarrassing- dancing naked.
He stayed on camera for the full hour and was slowly masturbating until the end of the hour was approaching. He told me we were going to cum together but have me specific I instructions about how I was going to cum.
As I was new into kink, I hadn’t experienced a ruined orgasm- until this experience. I was instructed to kneel on rice in front of the camera. On his cue, I would stroke until I went over the edge, and immediately put both hands on my head. I didn’t even know my orgasm was going to be ruined, I thought I was still going to get some pleasure.
He began stroking faster and told me to go. As soon as I crossed my edge, hands off my cock and on my head. My cock twitched and my cum slowly poured out. I felt release, but no pleasure. I watched him cum while my cock craved more stimulation but didn’t get it. His body shook from his full orgasm, cum shooting toward the top of his belly.
Watching a Dom get the full pleasure of an orgasm while I kneeled there ruined was when I learned I love to submit. I completed his tasks and wishes and he got the pleasure of cumming and that’s what mattered. I was given the reward of a ruined orgasm, but my pleasure didn’t (and still doesn’t) matter.
I would say my first time subbing was when I lost a game though. I had been playing against a guy for about an hour. We both had been on camera and were naked. The last game we played, the loser was to submit to the winner on video chat for an hour. I lost.
I completed tasks on camera for that hour. Many edges, kneeling in a corner with my hands behind my back making me lose my erection and ooze pre-cum. Spanking, fingering, a little bit of ball smacking, and the most embarrassing- dancing naked.
He stayed on camera for the full hour and was slowly masturbating until the end of the hour was approaching. He told me we were going to cum together but have me specific I instructions about how I was going to cum.
As I was new into kink, I hadn’t experienced a ruined orgasm- until this experience. I was instructed to kneel on rice in front of the camera. On his cue, I would stroke until I went over the edge, and immediately put both hands on my head. I didn’t even know my orgasm was going to be ruined, I thought I was still going to get some pleasure.
He began stroking faster and told me to go. As soon as I crossed my edge, hands off my cock and on my head. My cock twitched and my cum slowly poured out. I felt release, but no pleasure. I watched him cum while my cock craved more stimulation but didn’t get it. His body shook from his full orgasm, cum shooting toward the top of his belly.
Watching a Dom get the full pleasure of an orgasm while I kneeled there ruined was when I learned I love to submit. I completed his tasks and wishes and he got the pleasure of cumming and that’s what mattered. I was given the reward of a ruined orgasm, but my pleasure didn’t (and still doesn’t) matter.