Recently I was talking with a new potential partner. On a personal level we really got along. We took things slow and we built a connection. I was really excited to start exploring a dynamic with him, especially my little side.
Even though we matched really well personally, and our kinks aligned well on paper, we soon discovered that we had some fundamental differences. For this reason, we sadly decided we couldn't engage in a dynamic. However, I did learn some things about myself through this process.
I will write other blogs in the near future about some of the other things I learned but today I wanted to share how important the space to be playful and banter is to me.
It is true that I consider myself a brat. And I do have a blog that goes into what that means about me. In short, it really means that I am playful and like to make my Dom laugh or roll his eyes. I sometimes like to push buttons. I don't do this to act out or get into any real trouble, but moreso for the fun and shenanigans.
I can't be with a partner who will reprimand me every single time that I say something cheeky or who will take a comment of "good boy" or "sweet dreams my little dommy" or a silly nickname as disrespectful. This isnt me trying to be condescending or rude. I am not meaning to be hurtful or ignorant. I just want to get a reaction from you. I want to be playful.
Ok, maybe sometimes I want you to put me in my place. But that isn't through writing lines or being told to stand in the corner. A stern voice to remind me who is in charge, who I belong to, is all I need.
If I ever do get close to crossing a line, I want ... No, I NEED a warning. I need to know the playful time is over and I am close to stepping over a line. I need clear boundaries. Then I can make an informed decision and decide whether I will toe the line or take a huge step over.
But until we reach that time, I want to banter, I want to verbally spar with you. I want to imagine you wearing a glitter tutu and spinning in circles for me! I need to have light-hearted fun.
And you know what? That little verbal dance? The shenanigans? It is such a turn on for me!
Even though we matched really well personally, and our kinks aligned well on paper, we soon discovered that we had some fundamental differences. For this reason, we sadly decided we couldn't engage in a dynamic. However, I did learn some things about myself through this process.
I will write other blogs in the near future about some of the other things I learned but today I wanted to share how important the space to be playful and banter is to me.
It is true that I consider myself a brat. And I do have a blog that goes into what that means about me. In short, it really means that I am playful and like to make my Dom laugh or roll his eyes. I sometimes like to push buttons. I don't do this to act out or get into any real trouble, but moreso for the fun and shenanigans.
I can't be with a partner who will reprimand me every single time that I say something cheeky or who will take a comment of "good boy" or "sweet dreams my little dommy" or a silly nickname as disrespectful. This isnt me trying to be condescending or rude. I am not meaning to be hurtful or ignorant. I just want to get a reaction from you. I want to be playful.
Ok, maybe sometimes I want you to put me in my place. But that isn't through writing lines or being told to stand in the corner. A stern voice to remind me who is in charge, who I belong to, is all I need.
If I ever do get close to crossing a line, I want ... No, I NEED a warning. I need to know the playful time is over and I am close to stepping over a line. I need clear boundaries. Then I can make an informed decision and decide whether I will toe the line or take a huge step over.
But until we reach that time, I want to banter, I want to verbally spar with you. I want to imagine you wearing a glitter tutu and spinning in circles for me! I need to have light-hearted fun.
And you know what? That little verbal dance? The shenanigans? It is such a turn on for me!
