- What is your age?
- 35
- What best descbibes you?
- Dom
- What gender are you?
- Male
- What age range are you looking for?
- 18-35
- What should the other person's gender be?
- Female
- What are you looking for?
- Sub
- Where should this person be?
- anywhere (anything close to CET preferred)
- What little extra would you like people to know at a glance?
- Looking for a loving & caring long-term online D/s relationship
Hi there,
First of all, thank you for checking out my ad. I am a former GD member trying to find a new home here. Seeing Butterfly run this page gives me high hopes that this could become what GD once was for me.
Like many others, I’ve lost all my old content, blog posts, and a lot of my contacts. Rebuilding this will take time and energy, so if you have any questions or simply want to get to know me better, feel free to drop me a message anytime.
Now, on to the main ad - buckle up and be prepared for a wall of text. I value detail and background.
Who am I?
I am a 35-year-old Dom based in Austria - Caucasian, blonde hair, blue eyes, short beard, fit but not overly muscular. Professionally, I am a scientist working in human-computer interaction, focusing on health and sports, and I also lecture.
My work takes up a significant portion of my time and focus. Outside of that, I spend a lot of time in nature with my two dogs, read fantasy and sci-fi, and watch anime. I also have a strong interest in psychology and philosophy.
I have been a Dom for over 15 years. My journey began with my first partner, who is now my wife and the mother of my children. We have had online play partners (both together and individually) from the beginning and maintain open communication about it.
Since the birth of our first child four years ago, we have chosen to present a more vanilla relationship at home. We follow a fairly traditional stay-at-home/working partner dynamic, while exploring our kinks in private settings and through online interactions.
Anyone considering responding to this ad should be aware of and respect this dynamic - my family will always come first.
What am I looking for?
My last online relationship ended about a year ago for personal reasons. I didn’t have the energy to pursue something new until now.
I am looking for a primarily online relationship. While I don’t rule out meeting in person under the right circumstances, it is unlikely. I generally prefer D/s exclusivity - meaning I would be your only Dom. Beyond that, I value a focused and meaningful connection where both sides invest consistently, but I am open to discussing what exclusivity looks like in practice. I am transparent about my existing dynamic and expect the same level of openness from my partner.
I am only interested in long-term dynamics. I invest a great deal of time and effort into my relationships and expect the same in return.
Most importantly, I am looking to build a loving and caring D/s connection (more on that below). I have experience with a wide range of dynamics, and beginners are absolutely welcome.
I strongly value consent, communication, and safety (SSC/RACK). Boundaries, aftercare, and mental well-being are essential parts of any connection for me - both after sessions and in day-to-day life.
What can you expect?
My goal is to help my sub grow into a version of themselves they feel proud of - both within kink and in everyday life.
I aim to understand your background, goals, and desires, and to map out a path for your development together. Part of that process is uncovering untapped potential. I prefer a dynamic built on care, trust, and positive reinforcement rather than fear or total power exchange.
I will be strict within the areas we agree to work on and will expect consistent effort and progress, while maintaining a generally warm and supportive tone. I design tasks and routines tailored to your growth and continuously adapt them based on your needs.
That said, I am not looking to micromanage your entire life or require 24/7 availability.
You can expect consistency, attention to detail, and a Dom who is genuinely invested in your growth and well-being.
You will likely thrive in this dynamic if you are self-motivated, reflective, and genuinely interested in personal growth. Curiosity, consistency, and the ability to communicate openly matter more to me than prior experience.
Ultimately, I am looking to build something that feels meaningful, engaging, and worth investing in - for both of us.
Logistics
I am based in the CET time-zone, so nearby time zones are ideal. However, I tend to be quite nocturnal and usually sleep only 5–6 hours, so I have successfully maintained relationships with partners in the US as well.
Weekdays are generally more flexible (aside from meetings), while weekends are almost exclusively reserved for family.
Communication will primarily take place via messaging platforms (I currently use Discord but am open to alternatives that work on both mobile and desktop). I aim for one or two longer “live sessions” per week, with additional asynchronous communication in between. Daily check-ins (unless otherwise agreed), as well as regular feedback and reflection, are important to me.
I am looking for someone fluent in either English or German, with an appreciation for basic grammar and clear communication.
Must-haves, likes, dislikes & limits
Must-haves
Let’s start with one that may scare some away: pictures.
I fully understand that this is a sensitive topic and respect the need for caution. I won’t be pushy, and timing is something we can ease into - but I am a visual person and cannot fully commit to a dynamic without seeing my partner.
Initially, a small form of verification that you are who you claim to be is sufficient (I’ve encountered more fraud than I care to admit). I will, of course, provide the same. Over time, I may request simple proof of task completion and occasional glimpses into your daily life.
Once enough trust is established - or whenever you feel ready - I would also appreciate seeing your face, though this is open for discussion.
Additionally, intelligence and effort are essential. I am looking for a balanced dynamic where both sides invest and engage. You should be capable of engaging with me intellectually and offering your own thoughts - not blind agreement. This is about maturity, not bratty behaviour.
Likes
As mentioned earlier, I enjoy structuring development through tasks and routines.
I am generally open-minded and curious. If something sparks my interest, I am willing to explore it. Recently, I have been particularly interested in sensory deprivation and pet play.
Dislikes & Limits
Hard limits include anything involving blood, scat, or permanent modifications.
I also strongly dislike humiliation and degradation.
If you’ve made it this far and are still interested - thank you. That’s already a promising start. If this resonates with you, I’m looking forward to hearing from you.
To make things easier, please use the application template below when reaching out. Low-effort messages or those ignoring the template completely will likely not receive a response.
Application Template
First of all, thank you for checking out my ad. I am a former GD member trying to find a new home here. Seeing Butterfly run this page gives me high hopes that this could become what GD once was for me.
Like many others, I’ve lost all my old content, blog posts, and a lot of my contacts. Rebuilding this will take time and energy, so if you have any questions or simply want to get to know me better, feel free to drop me a message anytime.
Now, on to the main ad - buckle up and be prepared for a wall of text. I value detail and background.
Who am I?
I am a 35-year-old Dom based in Austria - Caucasian, blonde hair, blue eyes, short beard, fit but not overly muscular. Professionally, I am a scientist working in human-computer interaction, focusing on health and sports, and I also lecture.
My work takes up a significant portion of my time and focus. Outside of that, I spend a lot of time in nature with my two dogs, read fantasy and sci-fi, and watch anime. I also have a strong interest in psychology and philosophy.
I have been a Dom for over 15 years. My journey began with my first partner, who is now my wife and the mother of my children. We have had online play partners (both together and individually) from the beginning and maintain open communication about it.
Since the birth of our first child four years ago, we have chosen to present a more vanilla relationship at home. We follow a fairly traditional stay-at-home/working partner dynamic, while exploring our kinks in private settings and through online interactions.
Anyone considering responding to this ad should be aware of and respect this dynamic - my family will always come first.
What am I looking for?
My last online relationship ended about a year ago for personal reasons. I didn’t have the energy to pursue something new until now.
I am looking for a primarily online relationship. While I don’t rule out meeting in person under the right circumstances, it is unlikely. I generally prefer D/s exclusivity - meaning I would be your only Dom. Beyond that, I value a focused and meaningful connection where both sides invest consistently, but I am open to discussing what exclusivity looks like in practice. I am transparent about my existing dynamic and expect the same level of openness from my partner.
I am only interested in long-term dynamics. I invest a great deal of time and effort into my relationships and expect the same in return.
Most importantly, I am looking to build a loving and caring D/s connection (more on that below). I have experience with a wide range of dynamics, and beginners are absolutely welcome.
I strongly value consent, communication, and safety (SSC/RACK). Boundaries, aftercare, and mental well-being are essential parts of any connection for me - both after sessions and in day-to-day life.
What can you expect?
My goal is to help my sub grow into a version of themselves they feel proud of - both within kink and in everyday life.
I aim to understand your background, goals, and desires, and to map out a path for your development together. Part of that process is uncovering untapped potential. I prefer a dynamic built on care, trust, and positive reinforcement rather than fear or total power exchange.
I will be strict within the areas we agree to work on and will expect consistent effort and progress, while maintaining a generally warm and supportive tone. I design tasks and routines tailored to your growth and continuously adapt them based on your needs.
That said, I am not looking to micromanage your entire life or require 24/7 availability.
You can expect consistency, attention to detail, and a Dom who is genuinely invested in your growth and well-being.
You will likely thrive in this dynamic if you are self-motivated, reflective, and genuinely interested in personal growth. Curiosity, consistency, and the ability to communicate openly matter more to me than prior experience.
Ultimately, I am looking to build something that feels meaningful, engaging, and worth investing in - for both of us.
Logistics
I am based in the CET time-zone, so nearby time zones are ideal. However, I tend to be quite nocturnal and usually sleep only 5–6 hours, so I have successfully maintained relationships with partners in the US as well.
Weekdays are generally more flexible (aside from meetings), while weekends are almost exclusively reserved for family.
Communication will primarily take place via messaging platforms (I currently use Discord but am open to alternatives that work on both mobile and desktop). I aim for one or two longer “live sessions” per week, with additional asynchronous communication in between. Daily check-ins (unless otherwise agreed), as well as regular feedback and reflection, are important to me.
I am looking for someone fluent in either English or German, with an appreciation for basic grammar and clear communication.
Must-haves, likes, dislikes & limits
Must-haves
Let’s start with one that may scare some away: pictures.
I fully understand that this is a sensitive topic and respect the need for caution. I won’t be pushy, and timing is something we can ease into - but I am a visual person and cannot fully commit to a dynamic without seeing my partner.
Initially, a small form of verification that you are who you claim to be is sufficient (I’ve encountered more fraud than I care to admit). I will, of course, provide the same. Over time, I may request simple proof of task completion and occasional glimpses into your daily life.
Once enough trust is established - or whenever you feel ready - I would also appreciate seeing your face, though this is open for discussion.
Additionally, intelligence and effort are essential. I am looking for a balanced dynamic where both sides invest and engage. You should be capable of engaging with me intellectually and offering your own thoughts - not blind agreement. This is about maturity, not bratty behaviour.
Likes
As mentioned earlier, I enjoy structuring development through tasks and routines.
I am generally open-minded and curious. If something sparks my interest, I am willing to explore it. Recently, I have been particularly interested in sensory deprivation and pet play.
Dislikes & Limits
Hard limits include anything involving blood, scat, or permanent modifications.
I also strongly dislike humiliation and degradation.
If you’ve made it this far and are still interested - thank you. That’s already a promising start. If this resonates with you, I’m looking forward to hearing from you.
To make things easier, please use the application template below when reaching out. Low-effort messages or those ignoring the template completely will likely not receive a response.
Application Template
- Describe yourself (age, appearance, hobbies, relevant background, etc.)
- What is your experience with D/s relationships so far?
- What are you looking for in a dynamic with me?
- Describe your logistics (time-zone, availability, preferred communication tools, etc.)
- List your must-haves, likes, dislikes, and limits
- What made you respond to my ad?
- Why do you think you would be a good fit as my sub?
- (Optional) Describe your perfect day
- (Optional) Include a picture of yourself