Ad Advice

[Butterfly]

When you are looking at ads from people in the personals section or on other sites, what are some things you notice. Whether they are things that make you interested or instantly think "nope". Share some of the Do's and Don'ts of ad writing please!

 

[baloo]

Headlines are the most important. This is what most people read, and filter by!
Think about what it is exactly that you are looking for and condense it down to a single statement. Look at what tags, or specific words others are using so you can be found by searching for them.
There is also the art of negative searches, I like to include a few keywords that immediately show me it would not work. This helps everyone - think of things that might be deal-breakers to your potential partners and try to include them too. Nothing worse than wasting time if these could have gotten out of the way right away.
Remember - ads are not for finding as many people possible, but for finding the right ones!

Then there is the ad body itself - this is where you turn curiosity into attention.
They will look through - and for - the most varied things. Some are interested in your physique, some want to know what your specific kinks and limits are, or maybe a little about your personal life - hobbies, profession, aspirations, past experiences, hopes. All of that is great to include!

Be structured! Make use of headlines and paragraphs. Let people make their own way through the details you are comfortable to share.
Give clear expectations! Make sure you know what you want and be blunt about it, sugar-coating will only lead to frustration down the line.
Write it like you want to be, not like you currently are. Feeling sad and lonely about a lack of partners? Feeling horny, needy, deprived of attention so much you're tempted to say "I do anything!"? You have my sympathies! But do not write like that. Include your predicament but give it a positive spin.
Add something unique, funny, silly, or important to you. A way for people to enter into conversation creatively, something to connect to your person.
Include potential deal-breakers, limits, off-putting details about yourself and what you are looking for.

And one very specific thing I highly recommend: Somewhere in your ad, include a phrase, a word, or a specific way you want to be contacted. Can be like "Use the word 'apple' in your message" and be brutal about ignoring those who do not. You put time and effort into your ad and made yourself vulnerable by publishing it - anyone not willing to do the same is not worth any of your attention.

Most importantly: Don't panic! Be patient, and don't be disheartened by the many, many disappointments you will get!

 

[Butterfly]

Headlines are the most important. This is what most people read, and filter by!
Think about what it is exactly that you are looking for and condense it down to a single statement. Look at what tags, or specific words others are using so you can be found by searching for them.
There is also the art of negative searches, I like to include a few keywords that immediately show me it would not work. This helps everyone - think of things that might be deal-breakers to your potential partners and try to include them too. Nothing worse than wasting time if these could have gotten out of the way right away.
Remember - ads are not for finding as many people possible, but for finding the right ones!

Then there is the ad body itself - this is where you turn curiosity into attention.
They will look through - and for - the most varied things. Some are interested in your physique, some want to know what your specific kinks and limits are, or maybe a little about your personal life - hobbies, profession, aspirations, past experiences, hopes. All of that is great to include!

Be structured! Make use of headlines and paragraphs. Let people make their own way through the details you are comfortable to share.
Give clear expectations! Make sure you know what you want and be blunt about it, sugar-coating will only lead to frustration down the line.
Write it like you want to be, not like you currently are. Feeling sad and lonely about a lack of partners? Feeling horny, needy, deprived of attention so much you're tempted to say "I do anything!"? You have my sympathies! But do not write like that. Include your predicament but give it a positive spin.
Add something unique, funny, silly, or important to you. A way for people to enter into conversation creatively, something to connect to your person.
Include potential deal-breakers, limits, off-putting details about yourself and what you are looking for.

And one very specific thing I highly recommend: Somewhere in your ad, include a phrase, a word, or a specific way you want to be contacted. Can be like "Use the word 'apple' in your message" and be brutal about ignoring those who do not. You put time and effort into your ad and made yourself vulnerable by publishing it - anyone not willing to do the same is not worth any of your attention.

Most importantly: Don't panic! Be patient, and don't be disheartened by the many, many disappointments you will get!

That is all great advice. I feel like I do most of those things pretty well currently in my ad.

One thing that super annoys me is the including a word or phrase in your response. I would much rather answer a specific question than find a creative way to add in a silly word.

 

[baloo]

One thing that super annoys me is the including a word or phrase in your response. I would much rather answer a specific question than find a creative way to add in a silly word.

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